Ok, so either I've got it all figured out or I'm way off.
I'm not the skinniest, nor the prettiest, but I still think highly of myself and I take care of my appearance (except on days when I oversleep, lol). I am a Christian, and hold myself to a high standard. I've never had sex and don't plan on doing so until I'm married. I was in one long-distance relationship for 2 1/2 years, which ended over a year ago. My question is am I more marriage material than date material? I mean, I'm 23 years old, it's possible that my next boyfriend could become my husband. I've figured that maybe to guys I'm marriage material, but not girlfriend material, as wierd as that sounds. I'm just curious guys if you've ever met a girl that you'd marry, but not want to go on a date with, or want as a gf.
2007-02-06 03:00:58 · 8 answers · asked by GLSigma3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess what I mean is, while you're young and all, and if you meet a girl like me, are you less willing to date her because she's not going to be promiscuous, put out, etc., but you know that when you're ready, you'd want to marry the kind of girl that's not been promiscuous, etc.
2007-02-06 03:02:22 · update #1
i've never been the type to date women who i wouldn't want to marry. i don't need to experience a wild phase. i am a virgin too..
some guys want to date dirty/naughty girls and have tons of casual sex, and then settle down later in life.. for these kinda guys, yes, i agree that you may not fit their idea of a short-term girlfriend/sex-partner.
but you know, i think you are ahead of most. many girls think they can get a guy to love them if they are easy and spread their legs on the first date, but these girls always seem to end up disappointed
you certainly sound like marriage material to me. but at the same time, you can't get married until you have dated.. and in my case, i don't date people until i have been good friends with them first..
to answer your actual question, no i have never met a girl i wanted to marry but not date.. i see dating as the first step to finding a marriage partner. i wouldn't want to marry someone that i wouldn't want to date..
2007-02-06 03:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I am the same age, and also a Christian, but prodgeny isn't what determines marrage potential. All these are factors in determining what kind of relationship will be like, but nothing is contigiant.
Support is a huge thing. For men that are willint to settle down knowing that they have the support and trust of another is a huge factor. The part of this is, is that you don't know you have this until after much time dating. The overall person is what men look at. Dispite the steriotype of guys, they too, are looking for similar tastes in a significant other. There is no such thing as marrage, but not girlfriend material. If you are merrage metrial, you are girlfriend material. However, it is possible to be girlfirend material, but not marrage potential.
2007-02-06 03:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by RMS4EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl is dead-set on getting married no matter who the guy is, then she's neither dating NOR marrying material. She has marriage in mind as a goal, and not the result of a loving mutual relationship.
2007-02-06 03:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are guys that won't be willing to wait, but they honestly aren't the men for you. God wants you to wait, and better yet, He wants you to be HAPPY. :) He will have someone out there for you, that will love Him as much as you do, and will respect you enough to wait for you until you are married. I have seen this done many times, and I've also seen the reverse where Christian women didn't wait for the man that would respect them, and now regret giving it all away to a man they never see anymore. Yes, many STRONG CHRISTIAN men want to marry and not fool around with the dating. They're out there, just believe. :) In the mean time, get yourself involved in activities that help people, you'll meet men this way and at the same time be helping others. :) GOD BLESS! :)
2007-02-06 03:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that out there in the world is some guy who is willing to wait for marriage...good luck in finding this ONE guy!
2007-02-06 03:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you know if you want to marry someone without dating them???
dating to me is getting to know someone not a sexual free for all --- but then im a lot older and to me dating can include sex BUT its not a reason to date --- if that makes sense ---- best wishes
2007-02-06 03:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha no way, you sound like you just need to lighten up, but nobdy is marraige material and not date material
2007-02-06 03:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if i had you it would be like having my cake and eating it too
2007-02-06 03:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋