nice men? I am in my mid twenties and I still run into the same problems i did when i was a teenager. I am a nice person, and i care about the people that are lucky to have me in their life. My girlfriend just broke up with me because there werent any sparks, and she said "you are sweet, nice, and super cool, but I dont get the butterflies." she said "she considers me a good friend." I am also "everyting she wants in a boyfriend." If i am everything she wants why did she break up with me? I treated her like gold.. which i think is the problem. This is common with me. Most women i date say the same thing.. "i consider you a good friend, but i dont like you like that." What am i doing wrong? AM i being too nice? Is it too late to wow this girl or should i move on and just start being mean? Nice guys really do finish last :(
2007-02-06 02:50:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is my nice guy image already imprinted in her brain... is there a way i can make her want me/miss me.. i am really in love with her.
2007-02-06 03:10:51 · update #1
I know exactly how you feel. I'm in my late thirties and I just now finally met the girl of my dreams. I've always been the 'nice guy' too. I also know that being mean isn't the way to approach the situation. The second you start being mean you will start to attract other ladies, but not the type you would want to be with over the long run. Whatever you do, don't give in to that. So many of the girls that I dated were the same way and went off searching for the 'bad boy' only to find out that he didn't treat them with the love and respect that they want. They finally woke up after finding out the hard way and now they are looking for guys like you and I.
A little advice: Stick to your guns and be true to who you are. Eventually, the right girl will come along who will love you for all of those nice qualities. The older people become the wiser they become.
If you are too agreeable or let your girl make all the decisions, that may be a problem. For instance, if your girl wants to go to an Italian restaurant, don't say "Ok, wherever you want is fine". Take some initiative and say "How about Andiamo's?" She will see this as you taking charge of the situation and being confident.
Hope this helps and remember, it's always better to be alone and a little unhappy than it is to be together and miserable, so just wait for the right one and when she comes along you will be happy you waited.
2007-02-06 03:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Coach T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a maturity issue. When women are in their teens and 20's they are looking for excitement. Frequently they mistake uncertainty for excitement - the whole does he like me or not pins and needles thing. Once they get burned often enough they will find someone who treats them well for a change exciting. This usually sets in around 30.
So, you can wait for women your age to mature to your level, or date older women. Either way, don't change. You'll be happy in the long run.
2007-02-06 02:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you've just met the wrong girls, trust me there's someone for everyone out there. never change who you are to impress someone, they either like you or they don't. and if they don't just keep it moving to the next girl, because I'm pretty sure their's girls out there that really would love the fact that your a real nice guy and that you would treat them like a queen, you just haven't come across them yet but keep your eyes open she's out there.
2007-02-06 02:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't start being mean!!! Just hold out for the girl who will appreciate you. The underlying meaning in what your girl said...you are perfect to settle down with, but i am not ready to settle down. Remember, however, that there is a difference in being nice and being a doormat. Forget this girl...she is not ready for what you have to offer.
2007-02-06 03:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men this is a typical problem of the good boy, nowadays the girls don t want a good boy, you need change your behaviors because the girl want a bad boy, you never say her i love you, you never show her what you love her she just want have a nice time and sex im no kiding
2007-02-06 03:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that things havent worked out for you. some girls do like nice guys. im one of them but my problem is that i cant find one. good luck to you.
2007-02-06 02:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by misunderstood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there, you just haven't met the right one yet. when you do it will be well worth the wait.
2007-02-06 02:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋