I have been dating this guy for three years. The first year was great, then the last two down hill. He was lazy, selfish and just didn't care. I finally broke up with him. I know in my heart that I did the right thing. But why, now that I don't have him, I feel sad and want him back. Even though I know that would be not a good idea. I know there are women aside from me going through this crap. How do you get through it?
2007-02-06 02:42:39 · 9 answers · asked by casearas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to add that he is 31 years old, doesn't have a driver's license, a job, he recently just got his own first apartment ever. He really has nothing, and no motivation. I feel sorry for him. How too do you get over that?
2007-02-06 02:49:46 · update #1
Get on with your life...You are using to much energy thinking about the lazy man when you could be starting some really great new friendships....It's hard to get over, but everything takes time...
"Time heals all"......I believe that most of the time...:-)
2007-02-06 02:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u been together for 3 years. u were used to being with someone (irregardless of his characteristics).
you have not gotten back to singlehood - doing things by yourself, going out by yourself, everything by yourself.
maybe u lost contact with your friends as you were with him for 3 years. 3 years together = 3 years out of the friendship scene.
you are coping to be independent of anyone.
it is natural.
u are right - it is not a good idea to get back with him.
u must always remember the real reason of the breakup
to move on, occupy yourself with activities, call up and hang out with your group of friends.
slowly, u will get back into sync :)
2007-02-06 10:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with good times and friends!! That helps keep your mind off of things. That's what I did when I ended my relationship and soon after found the man of my dreams. Best of luck to you - stay strong
2007-02-06 10:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to value yourself more. Yes I went through that, its missing the "love" feeling, the companionship, security. Those feelings will subside and usually when they do, someone else will walk into your life and sweep you off your feet. Give yourself credit, and hold your head high, don't go backwards always forward!
2007-02-06 11:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were with him for three years. He has become a part of your life. You didn't do the bad thing. Eventually feelings fade and you will eventually find someone better.
2007-02-06 10:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will NOT changes with this nguy, until he decides to change, so why be saddled with a problem you can avoid.
2007-02-06 10:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want some one who doesn't care what you need is someone who love you and care about you. the thing is, love is a gift frome god, you eather fill love for someone or you don't.
2007-02-06 10:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because if you wanted what you have, then you wouldn't want it. It is the very nature of wanting. If you can have it, you may as well already have it.
2007-02-06 10:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just becuz we are human i know its stupid but o well
2007-02-06 10:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋