i am in love with my brother in law .i know it is wrong but my heart is all his . please tell me what to do .my husband and i love each other and we have a good relationship. but a year ago when his brother moved in ,everthing changed . i began to spend alot of time with his brother and got to know him very good. now my borther in law is going back to the way it was in the begining and i want more. please tell me how to stop these feelings.
2007-02-06 02:40:39 · 11 answers · asked by nextal789 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You say that you love your husband and have a good relationship. That is not possible if you allowed yourself to fall for his brother. I hate to tell you this but that is not commited love. You can change this and you must if you want to stay married. Have you thought about what this would do to your husband and his brothers relationship if it ever came out? I think you have been very selfish. Either make your marriage work with your husband or divorce him and let him have a life on his own. Either way you need to forget his brother. Tearing a family apart will not make for a long term relationship. You need to look at the reality of this and the consequences.
2007-02-06 02:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you be selfish enough to come between a family? You would break your husband's heart. And even if your brother in law shared your feelings, the chances of it being happily ever after are lower than you winning the lottery.
They say when a relationship starts as a spouse cheating, there is a 5% chance of it working out long term. Your chances are lower b/c they're related. They are obviously close if they live together with you. Maybe you should just walk away and be single and figure out what you want before you ruin lives, including your own.
2007-02-06 03:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if you have a good thing with your man then remember that his brother will always be apart of your life as well. Don't go trying to mix the chemistry you feel for because after you take it too far it's just another relationship like what your already in. So love your man and have fun flirting with his brother.
2007-02-06 02:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seeing your husbands good qualities in the brother, they were born from the same parents. Don't you think that you are being very unfair to your husband. The bro in law is not going to make moves on you, so get a grip and let him go, so you can concentrate on your husband.
2007-02-06 02:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a weak woman, with a weak heart. You stop these feelings, by having some pride in yourself. You make the move in the wrong direction, and you will end up having neither one in the end, and the whole family will hate you.
2007-02-06 02:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just stop spending time with your BIL. Goodness - it's not that hard. Your vows were with your husband, not his brother. I have no sympathy for you - cheating starts in the heart and mind so while you think you are innocently flirting, you are stirring up adulterous feelings with your BIL. I suggest you stop spending time with your BIL asap!
2007-02-06 02:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by downinmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him den just keep talking to him b cuz true love is the only love
2007-02-06 02:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him move out and start concentrating on your marriage.
2007-02-06 02:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your the only one
2007-02-06 02:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess that you should have stayed dressed around him.
2007-02-06 02:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋