I am having a hard time distinguishing if this guy is in lust or in love with me. We only met 2 weeks ago and we just have instant chemistry even when we first saw one another. We love being around one another and he is very verbal about everything: how he feels, what he wants, how he wants to make me happy.....he stares at me all the time and smiles and we kiss soft and slow . he has never pressured me into doing more and I really respect him for that....he is so sweet and wants me to meet his family and friends this weekend at his housewarming party. All I want to know is that do you think HE is in love or in lust.....of course I am not going to ask him...as well as do you think I am in love or lust...I think about him all the time as well and want to spend alot of time with him. He is what my ideal husband should be......he has all the qualities I am looking for.....I would greatly appreciate any comments....thank you :)
2007-02-06 02:27:06 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 WEEKS?? Definately LUST! Ask anyone who has been married for 10+ years and they will tell you exactly what the difference between love and lust is. How the heck could you possibly know what your Ideal husband could be in 2 weeks?
ARE ALL YOU GIRLS THAT DUMB!!!!! I mean only 1 actually has an Intelligent Answer! LOVE TAKES TIME!! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU ALL!!!!! No guy ever loves a Girl after 2 weeks!! Love is about Commitment....and understanding. Just because he wants you to meet his family does not mean he wants to spend the rest of his life with you!
2007-02-06 02:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
Well I'm not there and if I was I could tell if a guy actually has feelings for you or not. Here is the key point, he wants you to meet his family. Now I don't know what family background you have but I would never just bring some random person around my family, becasue I have a close family. People I would only take seriously are the ones that I would bring around. This is hudge! This guy really likes you. It's good to know that he is family oriented. Don't date a guy unless he has a good relationship with his family. I think you two will fall in love. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 10:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would normally say it was lust, but I DO believe in love at first sight, so I cannot really say that. What you need to do is just wait. Continue the relationship, but just wait and see how things turn out a few months from now. If you guys are still feeling that chemistry, it might be the real thing. And if the feeling is wearing off, then.... you know what might be up.
Good luck with everything!
2007-02-06 10:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Koneko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really a question of do you believe in love at first sight. If you do, then it's totally possible that you're both in it. But there's no reason to be hasty and put a label on it. Right now I'd just enjoy this time because reality has a way of putting a wrench in even the happiest of times. Write down this time in a journal, take lots of pictures, keep momentos... because even if it doesn't last you'll want to look back on a time when you were blissfully happy. And if it DOES work out, what a great thing to show your kids! :)
2007-02-06 10:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by omg_sotrue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks may be a little soon to tell if it is LOVE or LUST. However, from the way you describe things it sounds like he is off to a promisiing start.
If he is acting like a gentleman...or at least at the level of gentleman that you expect at this stage of the relationship and does not pressure to do things it is pretty impressive.
Be encouraged not to rush into things. It sounds like both of you are very happy at this stage and should enjoy getting to know one another. As your knowledge of each other grows, and you aren't PERFECT around each other as in the new stages of a relationship...lust or love will surface and make itself known.
Hope you have found the one. Good luck.
2007-02-06 10:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure seems like love, doesn't it? The next question is are you in love or do you just love him? We can enjoy another's company at the onset until some trial tests us. That comes with time. Keep in mind that some men truly love the "hunt". Although you may not be sexually active... how will he behave after? He's not pressuring you which is good... and meeting the family is a huge step. So take it slow and give it some time. It looks promising!!!
2007-02-06 10:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Darcy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that it's lust or infatuation. It takes quite bit more time to say that you love someone... not that I would really know. However, it is, in fact hard to say you love someone you've only known for a short period of time. I know because I went through lust, but not love. But give me time... I'm only a freshmen in highschool.
2007-02-06 21:33:27 · answer #7 · answered by YC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's lust or infatuation. Love comes later.
2007-02-06 10:31:30 · answer #8 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you met 2 weeks ago, it's lust.
2007-02-06 10:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok try and follow this,
the common idea in our age is that they can only fall under those catergories but honestly think about it.
if he wants you to meet his family im sure he loves you other wise he'd just want you to come to his place but at the same time im sure its crossed his mind about getting some but that doesnt mean lust at all. let both define him because if it didnt he'd be one boring guy
2007-02-06 10:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by riteaid89 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋