Should I just let him go?

Question

My boyfriend is not answering my calls or emails He said he would contact me last weekend but didn't. He told me he loved me and he just needed to ask himself some questions. (i.e. work out his feelings, etc)

However he kept telling me I deserve more than he gave me. He felt he had hurt me ( We had a few arguements and I was upset with him) and let me down badly. He said he never wanted to upset me but ended up doing so just by being himself. So he asked me what I really need and want , and see if he ticks some or any of the box. He also said he wanted me to be happy and did not want to be the cause of my pain.

I offered to talk things out with him but when I tried to call him yesterday , he did not answer, nor did he call me back.

I feel he is telling me to give up on him. Should I just let him go or wait for him to talk to me

We haven't really talked in the past six weeks. When we did talk, all he said was he thinks I deserve better and I should really think.

Answer 1

Give him time its all he needs hes just at a loss for what he feels right now, Maybe he doesnt want to contact you because hes still thinking on what he feels so let him think for a while in the mean time just be supportive tell him that hes the one you want and no one else that he is what you're looking for dont let him think that you're letting go of him or giving up because it will only make him think less of himself.

Answer 2

This sound like something that happened between my fiance and I. I came from a bad relationship so my self esteem was low and I always thought my fiance could find someone better. This may be the case with your boyfriend. I don't know how long you two have been together or if he is really what you want. If you really want the relationship to work (and he wants the relationship to work) wait on him. the only catch is a relationship is a two way street, you both have to work and communicate together to make it work.

Answer 3

Either you do deserve better, by which I mean who'd want to spend the rest of their lives constantly reinforcing someone who has no sense of their own self worth, or he is, in the way he thinks best, telling you that he isn't interested in pursuing the relationship any further. This guy either has issues or he is just not that in to you.

You deserve someone with whom you can feel free to disagree, who acknowledges that you have a right to your own opinion and someone who appreciates you as an interesting person who enriches their lives.

That someone is out there looking for you too. Don't settle, you deserve it all.

Answer 4

Listen to the Dude.

When a guy says to his lady. You are too good for me then he is telling you the truth.

also this is what guys tell clingy women who they just want to dump but feel sorry for.

Either way you are on the short end of the stick. Show a little pride and walk don't run to the nearest exit.

I bet their are real nice guys out their that you put down because they were not cool enough or hip enough...so now you know how rejection feels...are you going to pass it on?

Answer 5

Let him go, Evol and move on. He was not yours at first place, if he was he would have come back by now. But unfortunately, you have to accept it and make a new beginning. Life doesn't stop honey' and make most of it. Get yourself over it, I am sure that you will find your happiness back. Perhaps something good has been taken off from you but there is something best and only for you, lined up somewhere........ sometime.

Answer 6

With all honesty and speaking from experience; he's not into you at all or per say anymore. I know it's hard at the moment and easier said then done but it's time to move on. He doesn't deserve you especially when he isn't man enough to give his face in all of this. Move on because it's obvious he already has. Good-Luck & Be Strong!

Answer 7

Sorry, but he's breaking up with you. Every single thing he's said to you is very typical talk from someone who wants to break up with someone but doesn't want to hurt their feelings. "You deserve someone better than me..." "I need to 'work out my feelings'..." etc. Top that off with his not communicating with you...
Just call him up and tell him you realize he wants out of the relationship, and even though you're hurt, it's OK and you'd just like to know for sure so you can move on.

Answer 8

...I think u should stop callin him and tryin to contact him...it seems you are very worried about the situation but you just have to give it time...since you seem to want him i'm telling you not to give up on him, just give it time and don't go after him if he wants you he'll come around eventually...this might take a lot of time....really this is a question of right timing and also what the actual problem was from the very begining...adn if he doesnt come to you its because he gave up on you...Im sorry to say this...but it will take you time to get someone as good again but you'll have to learn to let him go and like evryone says theres plenty fish in the sea....

Answer 9

I think u shud let him go babe. I dont now bout others but i have very often used this line with gals i did not want to carry on with. I wud always say u deserve somebody better than me.

Answer 10

Evol, I am not trying to be mean but you can't let go of what you don't have, and you don't have him....sorry, but I think it is pretty obvious.
Try to put it behind you, he clearly isn't the one for you and sounds pretty immature. Try to move forward, spend time with your chick friends and get going with your life. Wasting time on someone who isn't there for you is, well, a waste of your time....chin up kid, rmember, even Jennifer Aniiston got dumped!!!