My daughter and her boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. I have never liked him. My daughter is way too good for him and can do much better for herself. He is 21 years old jobless, high school drop out and isn't trying to do anything to improve his life. My husband and I desperately want to see our daughter with someone who is up to her standards and can possibly make a good husband for her.
Just last night, my husband suggested that I should try sleeping with our daughter's boyfriend to prove to her that he is a no good dog. My husband says that by doing this, she will see that her boyfriend is a low life looser and she will break up with him and find someone better. Do you think this will work? Should I try sleeping with my daughter's boyfriend so that she will see that he is no good and break up with him? Help please!
2007-02-06 02:24:07 · 86 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok please understand i mean this in the nicest way but all i can think of is
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
u'll regret it forever - consider 2 scenarios
1. it works,he responds to you, hes busted - she dumps him - she certainly wont thank you - that could spell the end of your relationship - it really could- because you medaled, you broke her heart, and betrayed her in a way thats so deeply weird... she'll never share another relationship with you again. i mean no matter how bad one guy is - pff, theres always one thats 5 levels below him - if in rebellion she chose that guy and you could never know....
2. it doenst work he looks like a hero, and scenario one applies except far deeper and harsher consequences
she wont see the good in this - please please if you value your relationship
DONT DO IT!!!
2007-02-06 05:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this is a serious question.
What ever are you thinking? Or are you? If you go through with this crazy idea it will back fire on both you and your husband. The only thing you will do is it would either drive them closer together or you break them apart and and everyone ends up hating everybody. She might dump him and she might dump you two as well. What a mess! Whatever happens, it would betray any trust that your daughter holds in you two as her parents. This whole thing is a cheap scam; a real spasm of mood. Not only won't it work but it will only make things become very VERY BAD! The only thing you can do is let this take it's true course. You can talk to her but, your daughter has got to be the one to see for herself how this relationship is going. She has got to be the one to decide for herself what kind of person this boyfriend is. If she has any sense she will eventually figure it out. After two years it doesn't seem like she is ready to give this guy up. If this guy is as bad as you say, it's more than likely he will be the one to drive her away. The more negativity you throw at her, the more you will drive them together. In the end you risk losing any hope of having a relationship with her. She will rebel and you will totally lose her. This plan of your is totally ludicrous. It's lame to even think that you would put your own marriage on the line. What kind of an example are you and your husband trying to set? The only thing that entrapment and coercion will prove is immoral indecency on both your parts. So don't interfear. If she makes a mistake then so be it. Just make sure that both of you are still in a position to be in her life when this comes crashing down.
2007-02-06 03:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are f*cking crazy! First of all, he may say no and then tell her. That should win you parents of the year. Second, even if it works do you really think she'll forgive you or her father?
Your daughter is 21 and is old enough to decide for herself whom she sees. And the more that you argue with her about it the more she'll want to see him. Leave her alone. She'll decide if and when he isn't good enough for her.
By the way, are you sure your husband wants you to sleep with him to break up him and your daughter, or is he a freak that likes the idea of his wife f*cking his daughter's b/f?
2007-02-06 02:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
BAD IDEA ! Don't sleep with your daughters boyfriend ! First of all she is going to HATE you for doing that and second of all why on earth would your husband ask you to cheat on him ? Why not have some faith in your daughter, maybe she will see that he is a loser and break it off her self. Sleeping with your daughters boyfriend is going to ruin your relationship with her and then if she did find someone she loved and married him you wouldn't be a part of her life because if I was her I wouldn't trust you around my husband ( even if you didn't really want to sleep with her boyfriend) My advice is to have some faith in your daughter ...I mean really who want to marry a jobless loser ? I think she will grow out of him.
2007-02-06 02:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by *Alice* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By doing what your husband is suggesting you are committing adultry. Second off your daughter will lose all respect for you, is that what you want. Your daughter needs to learn from her own mistakes, if this man is no good he will show himself in due time no need for you to stoop to what you believe is his level. Have you thought about all of the consequences your actions might lead to. What if her boyfriend is smarter than you give him credit for and turns down your offer. What do you do then? What if he tells your daughter what you tried? I think that you and your husband are a bit off kilter to even think about this. Honestly, if you are thinking about this and have to ask people on here whether you should or not is disturbing, and I am thinking your daughter might be better off with a man with no job who loves her than a mother and father who come up with sick ways to get her to dump him.
2007-02-06 02:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sleeping with your daughter's boyfriend will not prove to her that he's beneath her it will prove to her that her family is disfunctional. Why in the world would your husband even suggest that and mean it? Why would your husband want you sleeping with someone other than him, knowingly? What you and your husband are thinking of doing is going to push your daughter away from all of you. She may leave him but she's going to hate you, her father and the rest of the world. Have you never taken the time to watch Jerry Springer? You should because what you've just suggested is on that show every damn day. So what hill billie state are you from and what trailer park do you live in? Don't you feel that you sleeping with your daughter's boyfriend is beneath you? You claim he's beneath your daughter so why would you lower yourself to his level just to a point that's going to blow up in your face. You're stupid!!!!!
2007-02-06 02:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you even think about sleeping with you daughter's boyfriend and for your husband to suggest you doing so, I would say something isn't right with your marriage. Anyway, if you feel as though he is no good for her and she is in love with him have you ever heard "Let them live and learn", she will find out eventually that he is no good for her and then again he may be the best one.
2007-02-06 07:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can feel is pity for your daughter for having parents like you. How can her father even think of that and how can her mother even consider it? Your daughter is better off having a loser boyfriend, which she might realize later in the future anyway, than being betrayed by the people she should be able to count on the most in her life. When she broke up with her boyfriend, she'd only feel heartbreak that most people experience and move on. But by having her mother sleep with her boyfriend, honestly I can't think of a bigger betrayal than this.
2007-02-06 02:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by trax2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is looking for some spice. I be more worried about your man than your daughter's.
If you are that concerned hiring a company or go online and pay for a 100% background check on the boyfriend.
Would you ever suggest your hisband sleep with the neighbor to see if she was a s|ut?
2007-02-06 02:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Phuzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are doctors out there for parents like you and parenting classes as well about emotional / psycological abuse....and u say ur the MOTHER and the Father wants u to teach her a lesson by banging a 21yr old loser bf,.....excuse me but Which ONE the LOSER for sounds like apples dont fall to far from the tree huh,
maybe just taking after ma mas foot steps ,
Real mature decisions u make it sounds like on how to teach ur daughter how to handle situations that she too if ever got her life concerned with some other family member or friends life and relationships, hopefully your daughter would keep her nose out of it . After all other men have done worse to others and women stay with them...WAKE UP AND and pick up a normal hobby like crafts or get a dog an go for a walk...
so u dont have to much time on ur hands to let such pathetic reasons make u come up w/such morbid sick perverted ideas. that will teach her huh, bang the bf.....omg they really do have doctors out there...get help seems ur husband calls the shots about what u do too ......
2007-02-06 02:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by NatureOrNurture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you and your husband are both sickos! Stop pretending that you have your daughters best interest at heart, if you did, this kind of thing wouldn't even enter your mind. Doing this would have an adverse affect on your daughter and I wouldn't blame her for hating you for it. It wouldn;t help her at all, but would definitely mess her up. I think your husband is a pervert to even suggest such a thing. I feel sorry for your daughter! No wonder she picked a loser. Look at the example her father has set for her! Bad!
2007-02-06 02:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋