I have just found that my girlfriend has a fiance and has just been playing with me for an year, despite my true love for her. Should I think of revenge or forgive? I just don't like the idea of somebody making chili chicken of my heart and me not responding.
2007-02-06 02:21:25 · 14 answers · asked by El-Foyo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The person that you love doesn't exhist. This woman will never be happy....you should take comfort in that and move on. Revenge will only make you resent yourself. You haven't done anything wrong (yet). Take the love that you had for her and put it towards something creative. You can make this a good thing for you. Congrats, you are finally free of a lying b!tch (I said it for you) :) Good luck in your healing.
2007-02-06 02:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you are really hurt right now. I have been cheated on also. Most people have been through it at least once. You have to ask yourself if you are the revenge type. Can you live with the consequences if you do take revenge? I knew that I couldn't live with it so I chose to forgive. To have hated the guy that cheated on me would have been to keep him in my head and heart and I refused to let him win that way. Find a friend and talk to them, yell if you have to but get it all off your chest. Take a deep breath and move on. Some girl will be lucky to meet you.
2007-02-06 10:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge never solves anything, and really is only going to make bigger problems. If you've broken up, it's best to stay on good terms; a quick, relatively painless breakup is the best way to go. Afterall, in the weeks after a breakup, you'll think, "She still has this I need to get back.." and it just makes it much easier if you can stay on decent terms.
Now, I'm not saying you have to forgive her, that's up to you, completely; if you don't believe what she has done to you is forgivable, then don't forgive her. But don't lead her on, either. Either cut her out of your life, or forgive her and move on.
Your situation's no fun, and I'm sorry it had to happen. Here's to hoping the best for you from now on.
2007-02-06 10:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Winter Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No single option is going to make the heartache go away. You can forgive, and man you'd be a bigger person than anyone I know if you could. You can just walk away and let bygones be bygones. But if it were me, I would have to tell her fiance that you had been with her for a year. And I don't mean that for you to be a narc, but for you to help another human being before he commits himself to a cheating, doesn't-know-what-she-wants, selfish girl like her. When enough time passes you'll be happy that you found out when you did - and at least she wasn't engaged to you!
2007-02-06 10:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by omg_sotrue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive. Revenge doesn't solve anything, it just creates psycho-***** ex girlfriends. Although, put yourself in her Fiancee's shoes. If you were about to marry a girl, would you want to know if she had been skirting around with someone else for a year? Think about that too, and consider coming clean to him.
2007-02-06 10:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion and best advice would be to neither seek revenge nor forgive her.
Just walk away from it completely.
2007-02-06 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in you trying to get revenge.I feel sorry for her fiance.You need to dump her like yesterday and have nothing else to do with her.She is lower then pond scum and you deserve better.
2007-02-06 10:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
revenge is a dish best served cold.find a girl who loves you for you and get on with a good life.A good relationship on your part and your success is a good revenge.
2007-02-06 10:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
revenge is a waste of time you wont benefit a thing,just get out of it and find someone.
2007-02-06 10:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by prettyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has no place in betrayal. She betrayed you. She didn't Love you. Therefore, why would you have anything for her? Answer, you don't! Now go out and learn from your lessons.
2007-02-06 10:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋