How do you restore a relationship after harsh worsh words have been spoken ?

Question

How can you make your boyfriend fall in love with you again ?

Answer 1

You can't make someone fall in love with you, but you can swallow your pride and apologize. Maybe he'll see that you're aware of your faults, and are willing to work through them. Hopefully that will convince him to give you another chance. After all, to err is human. Good luck.

Answer 2

Sometimes you have to come to the realization that the words had been said and the damage is done. You cannot take it back. At that moment, the love just faded from his eyes and you move on. You cannot do anything. I suggest that in your next man that you truly love, during the heat of the moment you take a moment and realize what you are going to say, because once you say something very mean or harsh and you hurt someone, you cannot take it back. It will last.

Answer 3

You can start by saying you're sorry, and then try to change whatever created the problem in the first place. He may be unwilling to give you another chance after what you said. All you can do is keep trying to work things out with him. If that doesn't work, then move on and learn a lesson from the mistakes you've already made. Good luck!

Answer 4

first of all, promise urself that u r going to make up with him come what may. this may help u overcome the initial rebuffs. if he is in a really bad mood, give him time to cool off. when u find him somewhat calm, make a sincere apology. tell him that u were really carried off by anger and never intended to hurt him. remember ur apology must be sincere. sorry is not a word u can use at ur convenience. and above all, put ur apology and ur promise of a healthier relation into practice. that will convince him that he can trust u again and that ur apology was sincere. putting ur words inot action is the best thing u can do for him. remember that it is easy to win someone's trust. it is easier to break that trust. but is the hardest to maintain that trust. so is it in relationships. all the best to u.

Answer 5

First of all you cannot make or force anyone to love you.If you said some harsh things to your boyfriend all you can do is apologize and if he forgives you then you move on in your relationship and always remember that it is important to think before you speak because sometimes you can never take back something that you have said in anger.If your boyfriend loves you then he will forgive you if not you can't force him to feel any certain way you cannot control or force peoples feelings,they have to come naturally.

Answer 6

well there comes a time in every relationship where harsh words are used but that doesnt mean that the relation is over . simply say sorry well not verbally in the beginnig but leave a card send emails send flowers or whatever it is that the person likes and try replacing the bad memory with a new one. then the idea that works best is make them their favourite meal and desert and then apologise personally. i think that should do!!!!!!!!!!! i mean who wouldnt forgive you after that lol!!!!! and if by chance they dont you need to find someone caring. in short a new partner.

Answer 7

This is a very hard question....because you cant make someone fall back in love with you...it has to come naturally. Secondly if it was real love, then he will come back, because real love is unconditional. People have problems, but when you really love someone you wont let them go. So I would say talk to him about it, let him know I STILL LOVE YOU and i cant be without you I want this to work, no matter what i said to you, every relationship has there problems. So say that to him, and see what he says, but all you can do is go with the flow its in his court. And if he doesnt want to be back with you etc etc atleast you tried...but real love you cant make anyone do anything....they have to want to...and it takes 2 to do anything...so even if you try to get back with him...Will he try also? if not this will be a challenge...but do whats in your heart and never give up...if you love him GO GET HIM

Answer 8

It depends on what each of you said.
Some things (little penis) cant be taken back!
He probably already feels insecure about them anyway so your attempts to 'take it back' will be much worse.
IF you said he was an azzhole your challenge wont be nearly as great
but the penis stuff is a dealbreaker
Was the stuff you said TRUE but harsh?
If so why did you say it so harshly? You might try explaining to him that you were mad and dont mean those things but if they were true, you would like to discuss them.

Answer 9

It will be up to him to allow the harsh words to be a figment of the past.
Sometimes words are harder to get over than a slap in the face. I suggest trying to talk to him, its the most you can do. If he is willing to forgive the things that were said, then maybe you can salvage the relationship.
If he is unwilling to forget, then i suggest you learn from this and remember from here on out, that regardless how mad you are, words linger forever. People dont just get over hurtful things that are said to them.
GOod luck

Answer 10

sometimes harsh words wound and hurts the relationship so bad it can't be undone. but it is worth a try, to undo a hurt, just an apology will not always do, especially if what u said hurt his ego and self worth. actions speak louder than any words ever can, just show him u love him, in your actions, show him by a behavior change in u. seek therapy for yourself if u are the one who is mainly at fault here. but it does take two to end a relationship. it takes two to restore a relationship if he is not willing to u need to distance yourself, and not be too hard on yourself for it.