To tell or not to tell?

Question

a girl I have known for quite a while, her boyfriend has been trying to hook up with my sister. I told her about it once before and she confronted him but they stayed together and it became really weird to be around him or for her to talk about her relationship problems with me or for us to hang out because she felt weird around my sister. Considering she was willing to stay with him the first time should I tell her that he has continued to try to hook up with my sister, sending her flowers and gifts. Or should I mind my own business? There have been quite a few times she has had to call him out about cheating and further I think she kinda thinks that my sister was seducing him or something. I also kinda thought she was mad that I even brought it up like it was my fault her dude is a dog. I hate not telling cause I feel like a bad person but at the same time I doubt that it will do any good. Maybe I will just keep her at a distance- she's got too much drama for me. What do I do?

Answer 1

You told her once, if he dogs her, its her own fault for not seeing what he was the first time.
Dont sweat it, some women are gluttens for punishment and live for drama. Apparently thats the kind of life she wishes to lead at the moment.
Do what you want as far as the friendship. But dont feel guilty for not saying anything this time. You did your duty as a friend, its up to her now.
Good luck to you.

Answer 2

If you told her once and she didn't listen what makes you think she'll listen a second time. If she's had to call him out on cheating a few times she's aware of his ways, and evidentially she's ok with it, because she's still with him. But I agree with you keep at a distance, there's way too much drama there and you don't need to be come a contributing factor.

Answer 3

You did your part and tried to be a good friend by warning her. At this point, I think the best thing to do is to distance yourself from her and her drama. I would also be warning my sister about this guy and telling her to send back the flowers and cards and not accept anything else from him. Sounds like you are the only one who sees this guy for the real jerk he is.

Answer 4

You need to get a copy of the notes he is sending and show her, and let her show him, so he knows she has cold hard facts that he is doing this to her. AND you need to tell your sister to back off if she knows hes with someone. I know drama sucks, but your family is involved, and a close friend, so you need to let her know your not trying to jeopardize your relationship or theirs, you just think she needs to be aware that there is a threat to the relationship and their trust.

Answer 5

Stay out of it now....you tried once and it didn't work. She'll have to find out the hard way now. Not your fault. If it makes you feel better, keep away from her too...especially if she is overly dramatic....women like that are hard to be around.

Answer 6

I say let your friend find out on her own. When she see's it with her own eyes then she will believe you. If he the guy is willing to hook up with your sister then he is willing to hook up with other girls. Let your friend catch him in the act.

Answer 7

This is a little tricky since you already told her before and she decided to stay with him. The best thing that you can do is not tell her anything.

Answer 8

You are the one creating all the DRAMA. Just stay out of it and mind your own BUSINESS.

Answer 9

sounds like she is clueless, tell her one more time if she brushes it off again begin to keep a distance because in the end she might start thinking that your ruining things for her.

Answer 10

Keep her at a distance.... If you have already tried to tell her, and she doesn't listen... Then screw it.... I have had friends like that before, and it only ends up with your feelings hurt.