My grandmother has Parkinsons, a thyroid condition, high and low blood pressure, a heart merrmer, depression and her vision is bad. Mentally shes seems to be getting worst Lying to one part of the family about the other.
Should I excuse her because shes sick even though her actions are causing problems for the entire family?
She lives with my family but she makes it seem to her other grandkids and kids that we are hurting her or something. I just need an opinion if shes really aware of her actions.
2007-02-06 02:07:15 · 18 answers · asked by TD 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It is time for the family to come together and accept a few things about your aging/sickly Grandmother. She can't help herself, and after all, she was there for all of you ....I'm sure. They say as we age, we become more infantile or childlike. Bear that in mind, be patient, love her, and ignore a lot of things. Granparents are truly a gift from God and we always need to remember that.
Good Luck.........
2007-02-06 02:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kbear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am sorry you are going through this. My grandmother suffered from memory loss and would invent crazy stories all the time. At the latter part of life she would says things like, "I'm waiting on my parents to come pick me up". Mind you, she was 83 and her parents were long dead. She would even get malicious and curse at my mom, her sole care provider. It was really hard on my entire family. But you really do have to keep in mind that she is getting old and her mind is kind of shutting off. It's hard, there were many times I just wanted to tell the ol' bat off!
But you really have to consider her as a child. Unfortunate;y, as she ages, it does get worse. Make sure all of your family members are aware of her actions and the difficult time you all are having with her. They will understand when she says something off if you have already made it know that sh e is not "all there".
2007-02-06 02:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on whether she was sort of manipulative before she got sick. It may just be her personality to be a bit of an instigator in order to get attention or sympathy. However, if your grandma was a loving, nice woman before her illness, than I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know what she's doing to all of you these days. My grandma was like that. She had a stroke when I was 17, and she suddenly became very demanding and annoying, and she was never like that before. She never really lied about any of us hurting her, but she did get very difficult in other ways, and she never would have been like that if it wasn't for the stroke. So I say give your grandma the benefit of the doubt, and I'm sure your other family members know that you're not really hurting her and it's just her illness talking.
2007-02-06 02:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question because your grandmother is having a hard time - which isn't her fault - it's an aging process. It sounds like she just wants attention. On the other side, it is hurting your family. I would suggest that you throw words of caution to any member of the family that comes to visit her (before visiting her). That way, they know the situation before visiting and hearing her lies. My husband's grandmother does this also however we just know that she is not telling the truth because she has dementia. Just love your grandmother for the person whom she is - just remember to give her attention and to warn others about her condition - therefore you can live a happier life. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 02:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her actions are all common. Alot of people act out like that when they are really sick. Your grandmother just may be scared and in pain, but don't let her get to you or the family. Just remember this is more then likely short term, cause you don't know how long she is going to be around if she is in as bad as shape as you say.
2007-02-06 02:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I hope I still have the eyesight to read whatever I want at 70. Not to mention the fact that old Hugh Hefner himself has gotta be 70 at least. Maybe Playboy is trending along with Hef. And having opened the cover of Playboy a time or two myself, I can say from experience that there are actually alot of interesting articles that have absolutely nothing to do with girls and nudity. Now I would be shocked if you found some of nasty, tasteless fetish magazine instead of the relatively tame Playboy.
2016-03-29 07:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sort of sounds like your Grandma has another problem-maybe Alzheimer's or Dementia. Take her to the doctor to see if that could be the reason for her lying. If not, your whole family minus her should have a meeting to discuss her lying and what you want to do about it.
2007-02-06 02:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your family are gonna have to get together and have a talk privately your grandmother is sick and all of you should understand that she is not mentally comprehending what she is doing, she is saying untrues you all need to be prepared and not bite each others head off because she is not aware of what she is doing..
2007-02-06 02:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to remember that your grandmother is a sick woman and you and your family need to understand that. Being sick is not easy on your family and it is not easy on your grandmother being sick with her health.
2007-02-06 02:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of the conditions you mentioned should affect her mentality. Lying is not a symptom of parkinson's, thyroid problems, etc. She should be approached about the problems she's creating.
2007-02-06 02:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by squealy68 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋