I'm a sophomore in highschool, and there's a freshman girl I saw who I want to get to know. How should I approach her for the first time?
I don't have any classes with her, and i only see her in between some classes.
I wanna go up to her, but I can never find her during any of the breaks or in the morning or after school.
Sicne it's just between a few classes, I can't really go up to her because she's with all her friends and we don't get much time to switch classes.
What should I do? Write a Valentine's day card?
2007-02-06 01:37:08 · 9 answers · asked by Andrew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No!!! Don't start too drastically. This scares people. What I'd do is start by gettingher to notice you by making eye contact. Don't over do it, but just enough to get her intrigued. Just don't look away as soon as she sees you, you musn't look intimidated. Then (and I know it's easier said and harder done) go up to her in front of all her friends and introduce yourself. This will get her even more intrigued and the hardest part is over. Just don't act all awkward, you gotta be confident. When the conversation has bee engaged then you can say hi to her whenever. Just take it easy, you don't want to scare her off. (About the previous answer. Very good, but don't say something like, ''So why would you want to go with me...'' Thats exactly the point, she gona want to go with you and you want to proove her that.)
2007-02-06 01:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Paul K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know anyone who knows her? That might help to break the ice.
I think a Valentines Day Card might scare her away. It might charm her too - but you just don't know - so I wouldn't risk it.
I agree that you don't want to try to talk to her between classes
Can you figure out what her last period class is - and manage to be around when school gets out? That would give you more time.
I've never envied guys - and how they have to be the pursuers. If there is a dance or a party coming up - maybe you could say - "I know you don't even know me - so why would you want to go with me - but I'd like to have a chance for us to get to know each other. Would you consider that?" And then maybe you can exchange phone numbers or e-mails. She might react weird if her friends are around. I know that when you are a Freshman in high school - that what other people think is HORRIBLY important. Not knowing you - or her friends opinions of you - she might react in a negative way - or seem aloof. Give her your number anyway!!!
2007-02-06 09:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I'm feeling where your coming from on this one. I use to day dream about approaching ppl i had a crush on, and we didnt have any classes. So my advice to you is please never beat around the bush, the longer you wait to make a move, or any move, it could make the situation worse, but start out with saying hello. I mean some people can say hello to any body even in grocery stores, and any place else. so speak. Then when you see her again speak again and maybe even ask her name, so that now she recognizes you. Its like breaking the ice, and if you want to give her a little valentines card. but the first step to take is to approach her like i said, saying hi. You can choose to keep it simple or just ask more about her if you want. it depends how comfortable you are with this person.
2007-02-06 09:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by lefteye w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should totally be her secret admirer! I always thought that would be so cool. Leave a card and a flower in her locker on Valentine's Day and try to plan a time so that she can meet you. I would ask around to see if she has a boyfriend first.
2007-02-06 09:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go say hi if she has the same lunch as you. Or, be her secret admirer (slip a note/valentine in her locker saying to meet you at a certain time or place). If you do that though, you run the risk of her standing you up, or rejecting you.
2007-02-06 10:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im also a sophomore and i had a problem same as yours and i have friends that are freshman that knew him and so gradually we all started hanging out at lunch then on weekends and stuff and now we're going out so if you have friends that know her just have them intorduce you to her and just kinda hang around and talk but wait till you've talked to her before you full on approach her cuz some girls might think thats either way way way random or kinda weird.
hope i helped =]
2007-02-06 09:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by floydygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
valentine's day card was right on my mind, definetly a v-day card because it makes her feel special and the note will be definetly read.
You should also find some friends that might be friends with her so you can be introduced. take it slow, you have time :)
2007-02-06 09:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a letter telling her that you would like o be her friend
2007-02-06 09:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by Odete D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk right up to her and ask her out like this........."Hey Baby baby , what's cooking good looking"
2007-02-06 09:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋