Have you ever been cheated on and still wanted to talk it over with the guilty party?

Question

Let's establish some facts:
a) The person cheated on you.
b) You caught the person cheating on you.
c) They even admitted cheating on you.

Did you still want to talk it over to try and resolve the issue or did you just throw your hands up in the air and say: "I'm outta here?" Did you really want to try and work things out or were you curious as to why they cheated in the first place? Now, for the record, this hasn't happened to me since I'm a single man as of this writing. I posed the question because of a show I saw recently where the woman knew her boyfriend was cheating and she still wanted to talk to him about their relationship. I figured: "What's there to talk about?" He cheated, she caught him, end of story, right? Please respond and elaborate.

Answer 1

Naturally anyone with any self respect would be out of there after finding out something like that.

BUT, you'd also want to know why your partner cheated. Not to put it right with your partner, just to know. You'd want to know if it was something you did, whether he simply got tempted by another person and couldnt say no etc

You'd need to know for your own peace of mind to allow you to move on .. otherwise, the next time you get into a relationship you'd be so paranoid of it happening again cause you didnt know or understand why it happened in your first relationship.

Just my thoughts -never happened to me and hope it never does

Answer 2

I had a former boyfriend that later played the role of what he termed as my 'third best friend' (since we'd gotten acquainted thru my two best friends--a couple I know well) and out of curiosity I asked him later about the sequence of events that led up to the breakup, when he'd started dating the 'new girl', etc. I was curious as to whether he'd be forthcoming with the true facts about the situation and I needed to know in order to build trust necessary for a good friendship. He dodged the question and/or gave vague responses. The way he responded told me everything I needed to know. It helped me make the right decision when he suddenly tried to make out with me again. I didn't fall for it. It's hard to consider someone as a good friend once you know that they have been untruthful about an issue that is impt. to you and I had no trouble not dating him again. I also learned another valuable lesson in the process--that guys say they want to just be your friend but they are secretly hoping they can develop a 'friends with benefits' situation. That would be fine if that's what two people wanted....it's just not for me. As to continuing a relationship after someone cheated....I can't see that happening either. Loyalty and trust are precious commodities. So I agree with your statements that once someone has cheated, you're aware of it, what's there to talk about.

Answer 3

first of all this has happened to me and 2nd of all, people just cant always turn their feelings off when this happens and they need an explanation. What did I do that was so wrong, what was missing, need to know questions so that you can put your mind at ease and be able to cope and move forward. Like I said how do you just turn your feelings off, even if you are hurt, it doesn't change the fact that you still love that person and now have to move on. Its the worst feeling in the world. Take care Heather

Answer 4

talk if both parties still wants to give it a shot. dont talk if you have given up or he have given up.

Answer 5

look i have been cheated on right but ya know wat i moved on instead of doing sumthing stupid if he cheated on you once then you know he is gonna do it again