Do you think he thinks I am stupid, is he selfish, materialistic, or all of the above?

Question

My on again off again special friend. I am calling him my special friend because in a year we have never officially said we were bf & gf asked me to co-sign on a car with him. I TOLD HIM NO, but what I am trying to figure out is did he ask me because he thinks I am stupid, he is selfish, very materialistic, or all of the above. He told me about his ex who likes to buy guys. If u didn't have much she naturally said yes to what u wanted. He told me stories of how she still does it now & in the back of my mind I have always thought well that must be how she got him even though he has never admitted to that. He is very materialistic when it comes to cars, clothes, shoes, & so on & I have always known that, but I have never bought him anything over $50 so I wanted to know did he ask me to co-sign on this car because it's really flashy & he just wants it or does he think I am like his ex & was seeing if I would do it. We are on right now but still not bf & gf. AGAIN, I DID TELL HIM NO!

Would he ask me because he thinks he stupid enough to do it or was he just being selfish and only thinking about himself and wanting the car? He has a car now with nothing wrong and no payments, and the car he wants would give him payments, but again I SAID NO.

Answer 1

You were smart, smart, smart!! Good decision and stick with it. The guy is a) selfish, b) irresponsible and c) trying to see what he could get out of you. If his ex likes to "buy" guys, she probably "bought" him and he liked it and, perhaps, thinks that other women might like to buy him too. (they used to call men like him a gigolo). In either case, this guy is into himself, first and foremost. He wants a flashy car he can't afford and doesn't have the credit rating to get a loan on his own; so he wants to hit you up for part of the responsibility. With your relationship more on the order of user and usee, he'd probably end up defaulting on the car loan and leaving you holding the bag. If you don't mind an on/off relationship in which you don't even get a rating as girlfriend, that's up to you, but you were extra wise not to let him into your bank account to satisfy his irresponsible "gimme's".

Answer 2

Answer: All of the above.

First, to get u to co-sign the car, if he can't pay, u gotta pay! So, i guess he is trying to use u. He has a car, y wanna get another? If he can afford, why need u to co-sign it? Since he never wanted to tell u or ask u to be his gf, i guess he is just trying to use u. Stay away from this sort of guy. Am a guy and wld never get a female friend to do this sort of things.

Answer 3

it's time for you to cut this 'friend' out of your life and find someone that will be a better 'friend' than him. he could be lying to you and throwing out these stores of how other people bought expensive stuff for him in order to get you to (1) feel bad about not buying him what he wants and doing what he wants (2) make you jealous therefore putting his ego above friendship (3) get you to do what he wants you to do. you did the right thing about not co-signing for that car. here is a clue: if a dealership asks for a co-signer then the person buying the car doesn't have very good credit. let's say you do co-sign for a car...he doesnt' pay because he simply doesn't want to. then that responsibility is left up to you to pay and not only will his credit be affected but yours will be to. you need to cut this loser out of your life like four flat tires and leave him out to the trash that he is constantly talking. because his treatement of you (because he can't get what he wants) is not worth it. cut him out of your life in every sense of the word. besides...it also sounds as if he is trying to manipulate you aswell. and if you do chose to get into a 'relatiionship' with this loser...he can very easily turn into an abusive and controlling loser.

Answer 4

if you have to ask these questions you are none of the above...but you are naive. your relationship you say is unofficial and i say artificial...there is none. he's a player and he's playing on your feelings for him. don't do it! you say you have bought him gifts not over $50, how many? money in any denomination adds up. what has he ever bought you? no matter what the ex did or did not buy him...you only have his word for it...don't buy his love. you can't anyway he only loves things. he wants the flashy car and a human cash station too. don't play the game or continue to share him...give your part of him back to the world and move on. that's just my opinion and something for you to think about.

Answer 5

If he is continuing to bring up the X he obviously is comparing you to her. Why on earth would you want to take that.
Thank God you did not co sign for him as it would be your credit on the line. Find a guy who will commit and one that you know is your BF

Answer 6

yo check baby doll he just playing you yo or maybe he just needed a co signer eaither way hes a loser babe check it I got a porshe and a garage full of gold bars but thats just me drop that dude he sounds like a scallywag

Answer 7

i think of that he in all probability concept on account that his ex offered him each little thing he needed that perchance you may to dont fall for that or you would be helping his butt sometime.