Im getting a bit fed up with my bf. He doesnt know 'whether we work', cant decide if we would be better as friends or not, thinks theres something missing from the relationship, some spark. Im the sort who likes to hang onto relationships, but i also feel like we dont connect much also, but only because we dont see each other or go anywhere with each other enough. We never act like a couple much outside of each others homes. Hes really unsure about us and i just feel like walking away, he should be sure really. If he was really unsure he'd walk away himself but he wont, hes indecicisive. Its really bugging me and to be honest i've already detached myself from him so he can think. I've warned him if he doesnt decide ill finish him anyway but he still doesnt know. Thing is, even if he chooses to stay with me it wont feel right because he had to make that decision.
The words 'walk away' are screaming at me, but i darent, i do really like him, but somethings telling me to wait and see...
2007-02-06 01:02:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add we've been together a few weeks, but we were together for 6 months about 2 years ago. He said there used to be 'spark' but its sort of disappeared apparently.
2007-02-06 01:03:40 · update #1
You should definately walk girl! Do not waste anymore time on this guy! This guy is not for you! You obviously want different things!
When you find someone who is so right for for you, you'll look back and realise how wrong this relationship was! Good luck babe! x
2007-02-06 01:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Totty D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are saying you had a relationship with this guy a few years back, which wasn't long, and you have only known again for a few weeks, if he says there is no spark, i think you should walk away, maybe he is with you, because he has no-one else. What right does he have to say to you, that there is no spark, if there isn't any why doesn't he do something about it, if you heart tells you to leave him, then i think you should, you don't need this stress, he reckons you are not going to leave him and he is taking advantage of the situation. Good luck
2007-02-06 01:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the spark has disappeared so quick imagine in a few years, ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years and we still get butterflys when we see each other, thats the way it should be.
walk away and stop wasting your time he doesnt take you any where or yous dont do anything together this relationship is not going anywhere.
sounds like he wants best of both worlds and dont let him, if he loves you and fancies you he shouldnt have to question your relationship.
plenty more fish in the sea hun!x
2007-02-06 02:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat doll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to walk away, you're just too damn scared of the sonsequences if you do.
I know its a scary time, but I think its about time you took a leap of faith and broke up with him. You both know its not working and you'd probably end up being best of friends and get on better than you currently do.
Dont worry about being single. Its a scary thought, I know, but honestly it's for the best. You'll meet that Mr Right and everything you're currently going through will feel like absolutely nothing and a waste of emotions!
Good luck x
2007-02-06 01:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna have to steal a quote here "If you love someone set them free" If there are still feelings then he'll come back or you'll go back. Maybe the difference is the two of you have grown up a little since the last time you dated?
2007-02-06 01:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon Jen, don't you dare accuse HIM of being INDICISIVE. You're WAITING on this guy to determine what happens in YOUR LIFE. That's lame.
You already know the right answer, so get the courage to make decisions that are right for you and don't depend on someone else to make your life happen.
Just get over him and move on. good Luck
2007-02-06 01:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say wait a bit, then say give me your answer and if he doenst make the deciscion for him, girls should be the one ruling the relationship, wearing the pants ya know?
so be the boss and make him choose or choose for him,
i mean if you want the releationship to work then just go out with him more and be more affectionate towards eachother,
OR go back to being friends and then your spark may rekindle!?
2007-02-06 01:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by abby_borg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need to end the relationship. Life is too short to live with regret and if you are miserable in this relationship and both of you don't know what to do to fix it, its time to move on. part company and remain friends and move on with your life. Take care Heather
2007-02-06 01:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I will scream at you
WALK AWAY
You have been together in th epast and it did not work out. Now yo uare together and that special chemistry is not there. It just was not meant to be
2007-02-06 01:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen you have already made an emotional disconnection from this guy. It's time to end the madness with him and move on
2007-02-06 01:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋