How to perswade the mother??

Question

I want to get my lip peirced, but, my mum says no because it will look gross but i am fifteen and i want to find out things for myself. How can i perswade her to let me get it done??

Answer 1

Wait till you are 18. If you want it then, you can have it and you don't need permission from a parent. Remember that if you are still living at home when you turn 18 you have to face the repercussions of getting it done if your mom still doesn't like it.

Answer 2

I am afraid that as a mother OF a 15 year old girl I would think that I too would say no.

I would say "no" because I feel that at 15 you are still her responsibility and that is a GOOD thing even if you feel restricted just now.

Mums are not nearly as overbearing as you may feel just now and they do have one advantage- they KNOW stuff. I am 42 and am actually quite wise. Teehee.

I know that piercings are cool, go out of fashion relatively quickly, get infected easy and can lead to serious problems and besides all that are not nearly as attractive an accessory on a young person such as yourself as you may think.

Personally I too would not LIKE to see it. It is making a hole in your body and it is likely to involve a stud which is not attractive wherever it might be.

Because it is not a mainstream piercing as ear piercings are it is harder to accept to see one there on some young. OK- so if it were a tiny gold diamond stud it might look PRETTY but because of where it is it is just a bit ... well- passe. Besides- it is designed to be either "goth" or whatever and it is to draw attention to your lip (any adornment like that is designed to draw focus to a part of your face) so why not adopt a beauty spot instead? Temporary tattoos... Start a new trend and be individual without ruining your face's unblemished future!

Rather wait till you are old enough to make these experiences legally and for yourself. Yes, you want to find out how it is but you don't have to HAVE one to do that! You can ASK and learn from what others tell you!

I was 18 when I pierced my ear a third time myself (in India) and 14 when I had my ears done with my mum's consent. I was 41 when I got a tattoo I had been planning for, wait for it, 10 years.

:-)

If it is really something you want to do then waiting will be worth it. And if, in three years' time, you have changed your mind you will not have been left with a scar on a really important part of your face.

Good trade-off *I* think!

(edited to add: Oh- and my 15 year old? She is planning to have a nose piercing in the future. And she thinks that my tattoo is really cool and would like one. Sometime. No rush, says she)

Answer 3

Well, with some parents, there won't be a change of heart, but you can still try.

The main this is to present yourself as mature and responsible. That means no yelling or arguing with her. Present your case and if she says no, don't argue with it. Also, don't get the piercing behind her back and don't do it yourself. That is the ultimate disrespect to your mother.

My suggestion is to tell her why you want it and explain to her your feelings about growing and experiencing life. Also, assure her that the place you've found is clean and safe and that if anything happens to the piercing, you will be able to handle it (financially and otherwise)

http://wiki.bmezine.com/index.php/What_Parents_Need_To_Know_FAQ
That is a good page to answer some of her concerns, but keep in mind that she is essentially responsible for your well-being and with you being underage, she doesn't have to let you do it.

Worst case is that you are waiting until you hit 18 to get the piercing. I wish you luck

Answer 4

personally lip piercings are kind of gross...sorry. But nose piercings aren't that bad-well as long as its not some huge bull ring! The whole piercings deal just takes too much work, you have to clean them to make sure you don't get an infection etc.etc.etc. Besides, you'll have plenty of time to find things for yourself. I don't think you can persuade her. Try something with your hair, experiment with that...

Answer 5

if you can't even spell "persuade" correctly, you're too young to get a lip piercing. Plus they're disgusting.

Answer 6

tell her forget it - you dont want your lip pierced, you would rather get a tattoo , or get a big bone thru your nose...she will be so frustrated that she might agree to the lesser of the evils, and let you get your lip done...my daughter had her eyebrow done and i didnt want her to, but i figured it could be worse..so i let her...not to mention - i am now "cool mom"...lol