Here is the situation, I watch my brothers two girls one is 11 months and the other is 7. I have the 11 month old from 630am to 630pm Monday thru Thursday. They pay me $75 a week. I have my own kids to take care of on top of them I have a 4yr,2yr,8mo. of my own and I feel that I am not giving enough attention to my own children. I feel like I give all of my attention to my neices. The 11month old is a hand full she cries over every thing. So that is what I do. My family and I are planning on moving out of state so I have alot of things that I need to do for the move but I cant do it with my nieces here. So I guess my question is how do I tell them that I can not watch there kids. Part of the reason is I just cant handel that many kids right now because of the ages so I need some advice on how I tell my brother and sister n law that I can no longer watch their girls. Please help. I really need to know what to do...And thanks in advance for all of the advice.
2007-02-06 00:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Here is another question. Do you think that they pay me enough to watch their girls of $75 a week. I also have to buy with that money all of the girls Breakfast, Lunch and snacks. So in the end I maybe make $50 a week to watch the girls do you think that is worth it in the long run Thanks
2007-02-06 00:56:58 · update #1
The money that I do have after I have purchased the extra food everyweek. I use that extra money to relpace things such as new colring books crayons and things like that yes I know I dont spend $50 a week on those items but we purchase other things for the children so if I did not have the extra $300 a month it would not be missed.
2007-02-06 01:08:34 · update #2
This is to crazy mom you just made me relieze that I make around $0.64 an hour I think now I have anther reason not to do it. Thanks
2007-02-06 01:11:08 · update #3
You must simply tell your brother and sister-in-law the truth.Tell them that while you have been glad to help them out by giving loving and reliable daycare to their children that your situation has changed.Inform them that you will be moving out of state shortly and are giving them two weeks written notice that as of ( the date) you will be unable to watch their children.Do not waiver on the last day of daycare or you will find yourself watching them up to and including your moving day. Your brother must know you are moving so he shouldn't be too surprised he will need a new daycare arrangement. I commend you on keeping your sanity with that many young children. Do I think you are underpaid. Yes, your brother must know he is getting a bargain.You cannot sacrifice your own household so your brother can rest easy. You want to enjoy the time with your children,not be stressed out I would also put this in writing (the notice) so there are no "misunderstandings " on the last day..Good luck on the move and a new chapter in your life.
2007-02-06 01:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not getting enough. I run a daycare and i live in a small town and i charge 15 per kid for 6 hours and under and 25 for more than 6 hours less than 10 and anything over 10 i charge the 25 and then 3 dollars per hour after the 10 is up.
just let them know that you are going to move and its hard to watch them and you need to get things done around the house. give them 2 weeks to find someone else to watch their children, maybe when they find out how much it cost for daycare they will feel bad paying you so little. but they are family and they should know how their 11 month old acts (with the crying and not being able to do anything) so they should understand where you are coming from. good luck!
2007-02-06 01:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by island_chick21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay should have been discussed prior to the babysitting services started. Now that you are planning to end services, price should not matter. I would make sure to give them plenty of notice, as finding new arrangements might take a little bit of time. I would say give them 2 weeks notice, more if possible. I know how hard it is to find not only affordable daycare, but someone you can trust. They probably feel you help them a lot and pay probably is so low because of being family. Either way, just sit down with them and explain you are moving, needing to do the packing ect...and you are overwhelmed. The sooner you tell them, the sooner they can find alternative daycare arrangements. Good luck to you!
2007-02-06 01:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this situation has become too much for you. That is a lot of very young children to take care of. Talk with your brother and let him know that since you're moving and need to pack and handle all arrangements associated with the move that they need to find other child care as soon as possible. I'd give them a timeframe so they know you're serious. I'd give them 2-3 weeks to make child care arrangements. I wouldn't bring up that you're giving all your attention to your nieces and feel you're neglecting your own children. Just simply state you're unable to get everything done for the move and properly take care of five children. Since you won't be caring for his children anymore it really doesn't matter if they were or weren't paying you enough. That's water under the bridge. You don't want there to be hard feelings when you're about to move. You're a very caring sister to take care of your nieces. I'm sure they're going to miss you terribly. Hopefully, they'll offer to help you out with watching your little ones a few hours on the weekends so you and your husband can get things done without the children under foot. Please talk with them and let them know how much you love your nieces and will miss them when you move. You're a sweet sister. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 01:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
$75 dollars a week x 12 hrs a day= SLAVE WAGES
Give your brother 2 weeks notice that you will no longer be watching the kids. Make sure you explain to the 7 yr old that she will be cared for by someone else because you need the time to get your family packed for the move but you still love her to pieces and she has done nothing wrong.
If your brother has a problem with this, you need to stand firm and do what is best for both you and your own children first.
Good luck on your move!
2007-02-06 01:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell me it has been a pleasure watching the girls, but due to your decision to move of state you are needing some time to make plans and would like to give them a couple of weeks notice to find a new babysitter. Also I would have asked them to send snacks and milk to your house for the girls. At my daycare I pay 15.00 a day or 45.00 a week. And they are not family. I think when it is family it is difficult to ask for more money. I hope this will help you out and wish you luck.
2007-02-06 01:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A. You are not getting paid enough. I pay my in home (licenced)daycare provider $160 a week per child. (the going rate for my area)
B. Just tell them that you have several things that need to get done before you move, so as of XX date you can't take care of the kids anymore. Not sure how long until you move, but If there's enough time, try to give them at least 2 weeks notice.
2007-02-06 00:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by kittynala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them.Give your reasons and leave it at that. They may accept it or they may not but that truly is their problem. You have to do what is best for you and your kids. By the way you are being taken advantage of.That is far to little to be paid for the length of time you are having your nieces.Family or not when it comes to full time child care you should be properly compensated. Most defiantly if you are paying more out of your pocket for food and necessities for the child that you are watching then what you are being paid.
2007-02-06 02:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they know you are moving away there is your alibi right there.
No need for fabricated lies or excuses from your side.
You are moving away! that, on its own is a very difficult task and you have young kids yourself!
Family first..I mean YOUR family first.
This move is a change for everybody in your direct family. You need time not just to pack but to support your own kids feelings about a new house and everything.Just be open and tell them your moving "due date" is very soon and your hands are full.
They will understand!
2007-02-06 01:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would be nice of you to give them a notice - like two weeks just like a regular job. So that they can find a replacement. And I think they would understand that you have a lot to do to get ready for the move.
Since it's family - I do think they are paying you enough.
2007-02-06 01:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋