My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend call him to ask for help, should I be worry?

Question

His ex left him few years ago but sometime she still calling him and ask him to help her to do things for her. I'm with him for 7 months now. She left my boyfriend and be with her ex-fiance. Now we believe she has kid with him. She moved to different state and be with her new boyfriend who is her ex-fiance. When she need help (want to use my boyfriend), she will call him. Other than that, he will never hear from her. Last time she called him couple days ago, he didn't tell me. I found out from his phone log on his cell. I confront him and he said 'she is not significant to me and I talk to her only less than a minute. she asked me to help her to set up and e-mail and internet and I said no, I don't have time and I'm with someone. Don't call me again' Do you think he's honest with me? Can I trust him with his ex-girlfriend?

Answer 1

Hey there, I must say you are very funny. Ok Read and Listen carefully.

There is always for things that are major factors of building a succesful relationship. 1. Respect, you gotta respect your man and let him respect you, respect that he had a life before you came into his life and that he is still part of that life, and vice versa. 2. Fate, I cant expalin this but I know that you did not bump on to him and feel head over hills in love with him, so that might have been fate. Im not talking in dreamland here. 3. Trust, You have to trust yuor that he can and/or is faithful to you, that he can around other woman and not think of doing something stupid, he has to have that trust in too. Insecurity is a sign of deteriorating trust in another person, insecurity also tells you that maybe you were also thinking of doing the same, and wanted to confirm if he is doing it. 4. Love, I advise not ever fall but grow in love because you might fall out of love. Become your boyfriends best friend or something close to that, to the that your speak as freely to him as with best friends, after these you can become lovers.

If you base your relationship on these four pillars, it will take a miracle to make it fall. usually lack of trust is what makes the relationship go sour. Dont get all insecure because that means your trust in him is deteriorating for no reason. There is no reason you to get suspicious of anything. Dont make a misjudgement based on void speculations.

I hope I got through to you my dear. Have a good life

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Answer 2

Worry. 1--She denied who it was...which it means that it matters who called. 2--it was on a week night after 11 which means that he knows whether or not he can contact her. She must have not mentioned to him that she sleeps with you which is why he thought it was ok to call. He's an EX calling her at night. This to me CAN only mean one (or two) things considering I'm a female, and I've been in this situation before. He's still interested and she is too because she failed to tell you who it was that was calling. OR it could be that she's uneasy talking to you about him because of THE reason that he's an EX. OR--yes another one--another reason why he would call that late, on a weeknight, because there may have been an emergency and she was the only one that he knew he could count on. No clue. Unless you let her know that you invaded her privacy, because you DO have a right to know who it was that called, while she was at your place, and ask her why she's not admitting who called when you know who it was. If she comes on the defensive. You should overlook your relationship with her in the first place. When you ask her, you'll know if she's the lying type with amnesia, or if it's simply something else. I just know that if I was her and I wasn't interested in my ex anymore, I would definetly let you know who it was that called and tell you why. And to be honest, I would actually laugh it off because he's an ex for a reason. But, only way to know for sure is to confront the fact you know who it was that called. Good luck. Update me on the situation if ya want.

Answer 3

for now it's safe, that's what a relationship is built on TRUST, if youo keep on accusing him he'll push you away b/c then he'll know you'll get very emotional and defensive. Relax, enjoy the time with him, don't be jealous, he's your BF. Plus it's not like he's getting a call from her and saying "I gotta run darling, be back soon".

Answer 4

well its hard to say. But i dont think you should let an ex-g/f, who is not in the same state as you, spoil what you have with ur bf. Maybe he forgot to tell u about her call, or it was too insignificant to him.

ifyou trust your bf, then let it go.

Answer 5

Look...if you value this relationship...you have to choose to believe him unless there is a reason not to...he can not help that she chooses to call him...and can only decide for himself that he doesn't want to be a rug...and it sounds like he did that...it sounds like the person you need to worry about the most is yourself...hope you don't let fear sabotage a good thing...but that is your choice.

Answer 6

Yes

Answer 7

tell him to change his number and that if you even suspect that he is in contact with her at all that you will dump him. it's not fair for you that he feels compelled to help her out to the point that he's being sneaky. That means that she still has a hold on him.

Answer 8

Don't worry. If he said to her not to call him again, he's upset too. Men don't say things like that unless they mean it.

Answer 9

1) He didn't tell you
did he helped to his ex-gf? if he did, it is probleme,
if he didn't help yet, and doesn't tell you about calls, than he thinks about her and can't decide what to do,
then it is your turn! Decide for him! say "enough, don't even talk to her! . . ." blandly . . . maybe during kissing.

Answer 10

About trusting him, wouldn't you be the best judge?