A coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. We had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf. Anyway during all of this, he suggested that the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. I thought he really wanted me because he kept asking if I wanted to do it. Then he told me that I should do it with someone else since he already has a gf. Of course, I felt hurt ,angry, and embarrassed since I told him things that I wanted him to do to me. A few days later I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around, then I felt bad about it and wrote a letter apologizing to him. This is what provoked him to ignore me for the past month. A few days ago, he looked at me like he wanted to say hello and I emailed him asking him if we could just treat each other like coworkers and say hi. He told me I was too werd.
2007-02-06 00:10:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
start being modest and stop trying to give him signs u really want to bed him.be a good friend to him after u apologize for what you`ve done lately.i`m sure after u get both healed he will open the subject again.tell him that ur sorry that u never really wanted it,and ask for a friendship alone.believe me but you`ll get back his respect again!it`s a long and torturing process but it worked to me.
2007-02-06 00:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him you've earnt his respect. show to him that you no longer like him in that way. what he was doing to you he was only trying to lead you on cos that's the kinda guy he is. he likes to fool and joke around. he only tried to use the mixed signals as an excuse. and because you told him how u felt, and then apologized and took it all back, it kinda sends the wrong msg to him. it's kinda telling him that u really do like him, and he cant get into a relationship with you because he has a girlfriend, so he's trying to keep his distance from you. seriously, move forward with your life and only maintain friendship with him, and dont believe what he tells you in regards to those things that lead you on. u deserve better than that. may u can go out there and get a boyfriend of your own, and tell your co-worker that you've moved on with your life and only looking to concentrate on your future, nothing more. the more he sees that u dont like him anymore, the less weird he'd feel around you, and if there ever is a time where he says that he likes you and has dumped he's girlfriend, you could say it's too late, that there's no turning back, and you could come out a better person.
2007-02-06 08:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he wanted his cake and to eat it too, your knew he had a gf and you still trying to get with him, most guys will take to sleep with other woman if they believe the can't get caught, walk and stay away from guys that have a wife or girl friend nothing good can come from this. P.S grow up next time it could be you o the other end he's trying to cheat on you with a co-worker or a one night stand turns in to a 9 mo' of get fat, 21 years of taking care of your child. The one you know don't really ask for. Just my thought.
2007-02-06 08:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home &run a warm bath, undress urself, put some massaging oils in, get in the bath and relax your senses. If you are still not feeling better after this, read a boring book unitl you fall asleep. The next day, put on your best outfit to work & pretend like he's new at work (nothing ever happenned between the two of you)
2007-02-06 08:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by stiletto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're too weird...too gullible, perhaps, but not too weird. Why would you sleep with a co-worker who's in a relationship in the first place? That has disaster written all over it. Also, why would you believe him when he said the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. --Hello! He just wanted to get you in bed and that's it. I suggest looking for a new job or stop worrying about regaining his respect. If anything he needs to earn your trust back.
2007-02-06 08:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a strong, independent and assertive woman makes your ground firm. You can't just say and assume these qualities, you need to really practice and become them, especially towards the opposite sex. When a man realizes that you a strong willed woman, he may either consider it a challenge for himself, or be to scared to approach you. Be assured that your respect is on the platter; it won't be messed with!
2007-02-06 08:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Entice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like your both acting like little kids. if you wanted the man why didnt you just go get him why would you want to stop crushing on someone just because they have a girlfriend
2007-02-06 08:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by links305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point on beeing obsessed with one man. there are plenty of them outside just open your eyes!
2007-02-06 08:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Marinos D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋