I posted yesterday about my GF and the demands she makes for tons of sex. I told her last night that she could be more active in bed, she totally flipped out and said i was insulting her and that i was saying the sex was bad. that's not what i was saying... was i wrong?
2007-02-05 23:51:49 · 11 answers · asked by varia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just said it wrong. Things like how good we are in bed with our guy is a sensitive subject. Well it is to me anyways. I didn't read your post from yesterday. Did she want too much sex? My guy complains about me wanting it too much but he can never say I,m not active in bed. In fact, I'm the one that does all the "work". He has become a lazy lover but that's okay because I get what I want. I think it's funny because sometimes he makes up excuses like you hear men joke about women doing. Things like "not tonight honey I have a headache" etc. All funniness aside, it is difficult on a relationship when one of you has a much stronger sex drive but if you both love each other you always find ways to compromise even about sex issues. Have fun and both of you relax about it. One day you'll both be to old to even remember what sex was all about.
2007-02-06 01:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW you said that she needed to be more active in bed is more important than the fact you told her and, with the wrong tone or choice of words, it might have come out insulting.
That said, you do need to let her know what your needs are but in a calm, rational (non-accusatory) way. Have a good talk with her.
2007-02-06 07:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by The Rubester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were wrong, but only in the way you said it. If you want her to be more active in bed tell her in a playful way when your in bed that you really like it when she does this or that or would she like to try something new and new positions or you think you would like it will she try it with you. You have to kind of guide her in what you like without making it sound like she isn't good. Be creative ask her to try things a different way, Get her to think of a new position that she thinks she would like. Be playful and you will have more fun. Take care Heather
2007-02-06 07:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just sex. There's plenty ot be given on the corner of the street. What you wanna do is "Make Love" to your Lady. You're putting demands on her Body. When you don't even have her Heart. First one, then the other. Try it.
2007-02-06 07:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it was insulting if she is demanding more sex then it was your right to tell her if she was more active in bed you would want more sex too.
You told her your feelings and she didn't like it..........so what she will get over it.
2007-02-06 07:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were accusing her of just being still and not participating. ( in female speak.) Instead--after you apologize--just do it, cause it was hurtful to her. Just tell her that you're sorry that you hurt her feelings. Tell her that you love it when she____________, could she do it more, instead of criticizing what you feel is lacking in her performance. (Unless you like sleeping alone?)
BTW, that's true for all aspects of your relationship. Also, it sounds as if you were upset about her demands and you turned it around on her. That's a coward's ploy.
2007-02-06 08:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong. If somebody wants a lot of sex it has to have in mind that you need to do a variety of things, different thing to keep it more fun and good. Plus a mature and confidence person should be able to listen, be open and accept critics about the "in bed relationship" if they want to inprove it. What you said wasn't wrong!!!
2007-02-06 08:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Majo's Project 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's ...strange. Sex should be 100% equal effort.
2007-02-06 08:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dane Aqua 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it could be equal but if u wont to keep her happy then u should have lots of sex then only if u wont 2 keep her happy
2007-02-06 07:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by T-Money 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in sex I think your bodies should move as one or at least that is how it is with us we take each other to heights that well....
2007-02-06 07:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by k®ì§ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋