hey there, i am here to ask some advice on how to tackle this situation with my sister. she's 17 years older than me, but still quite youthful. i lo ve her to bits, but this xmas me and my bfriend went to spend with her and her hubby in th country side...i had the worst time of my life. they are too perfectionists and materialists, they victimise themselves, and said things about our parents that are not true for a fact because they want us to feel sorry and pity them for the life they had, they came out with bullshit on why we could not use the internet, started huffing and puffing when i started copying some of their CD's on my laptop after they given me permission, and so many things, that this time ii just cannot get over it...everyone knows they are a bit made in their own way, but this is enough, the want accenptance but are unable to understand or adapt to other ppl's needs aswell, i feel sickened with myself, as i love my sister. i wanna tell her...what do u suggest and how?
2007-02-05 23:27:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sit down with your sister in private. Tell her all the stuff that is going on is upsetting you very much. Tell her the this and that is really hurting your feelings. If she can understand that than perhaps she will be open to learning how she can stop doing things that really hurt. Before you even start the conversation tell her how much she means to you and you are afraid that she will not talk to you if you bring up certain subjects. Tell her that you need her in your life, but this stuff thats going on it ripping your heart out and you really need her to listen and help you come to a compromise so that you can enjoy her company more. Love gives love. hope this helps, take care Heather
2007-02-05 23:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to speak with your sister in private. As your age is quite different maybe her childhood was very different from yours. She will probably be angry with you at first for bringing these things to light but somebody has to. I an sure that after a while of being angry she will come around and understand that you are doing these things out of love.
2007-02-06 08:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your sister. I don't think that would be a problem for you. But here's the think if that's how her in her hubby are in there own home in if its there way how they are there's not much you can do. Your being mad in upset for something that is small. Why are you anyway. It's not your life and you don't live with them so let it go. So they are nic pickers you know this now. There's nothing you can really do. Next time don't go.
2007-02-06 15:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister has issues but u cant change the way they r wat a sad and sorry life they lead.
2007-02-06 16:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋