I am a 21 year old, single mother of two. I don't really have a chance to get out much, but the other night i actually did it. Well, while i was out i met this guy...we'll call him Al. He's the sweetest guy, so funny, and he loves kids. He asked me to dinner. The only thing is....Al is in his early 30's. It seems like a big age difference, but i am very mature for my age, and all of the men my age either aren't into the kid thing or are just too immature for me to even waste my time. Do you think it's too much of an age difference to date someone 10 years older than me, or do you think i should just go for it?
2007-02-05 23:26:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Deary. I am 29 and married to a 41yr old man. We been together 15yrs and married 10. Yes that means we been together since I was 14. People would think that is disgusting and gross. But guess what, we are happy, and have a healthy marriage. So I wish you alot of luck. What matters is the heart of the person, not the age. That is the way I see it! Besides most men my age, haven't figured out what they want, and still are looking into the partying and stuff. Not that partying is bad, but there are priorities. I wish you alot of luck, and if he is stable, loves kids and can be great with them, Go on and Goodluck!!
2007-02-05 23:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think that after you reach 21 you could go out with someone in his 30's and is okay because you are an adult. The big age diferecen you can see it when people are younger than 20 or the diference is 15 years or more... Plus women do get mature faster than men. And is normal to find things in common with an older man, plus you have children I think you see life in a diferent way now... Go for it!!!!
2007-02-06 07:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Majo's Project 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just go for it and see how it goes :)
I am 21 myself and my husband is 30. Sometimes I've found it a bit strange to listen to some discussions. Like him and his parents discussing how he did when he first started in school, seeing as how I wasn't even born at the time.
But it's fully possible to have a happy relationship with somebody a couple of years older.
So personally, I'd give it a go and see how you get along.
2007-02-06 07:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kara, I think that each person is different. My hubby is 8 years older than me but it doesn't bother me at all, we have been married for 10 years now. I don't think you should be looking at his age, rather him as a person. See if you get along first, go on the date and get to know him. In time you will know what the right thing for you is.
2007-02-06 07:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Shrek 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only people that should care about the age thing is you and al and if its not a problem for you forget what everyone else thinks was/is very common to see 10 -15 year age gap in couples
2007-02-06 07:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by furmanator1957 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have always been attracted to older men, for lots of reasons. The most important is they are not immature, they're wiser and even more romantic. My husband is almost 10 years older than me. I think if the chemistry is there....Go for it. Age is only a number.
2007-02-06 07:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he really is what you think he is, I would say go for it. But I think you should give it at least 6 months to really see if he is as terrific
as you think.
Remember it is not only yourself to condsider, but your childdren come first. You are an adult and if you get hurt, you can get over it. But the children can get confused, and if it doesn''t work out they will have very little trust in "men" when they get older.
2007-02-06 07:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter when it comes to love, he can be 20yrs older than you it does not matter, what matter is love ans care for each other. My husband is 12yrs older than me and we have been living fine in love and peace. we behaved like brothers and sisters at times. My dear don't wait any more minute go for it hence the love and care is there.
2007-02-06 07:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are compatible and have common interests and you like each other then why not?
you arent marrying him ... date and have fun... with 2 kids you need adult time too.
if it works out great, if not you had fun and can move on knowing whether that kind of age difference works for you the next time around. no experience is lost. we all gain wisdom.
2007-02-06 07:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where love is concerned, age is no barrier. If you love Al and he loves you what is there to stop you? I Say go for it you are both lucky to have found love. Do not worry what anyone thinks or says hold your head up high and dive in!!! I wish you both the best!!! Congratulations!!!
2007-02-06 07:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ansy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋