When my daughter gets angry i let her take it out on the dog shes only 5 so she cant do that much damage. is this right?
2007-02-05 22:41:39 · 20 answers · asked by Fishfood! d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oops, sorry everyone it looks like ive given u all the rong idea, u see the dog is a soft toy called Milo
2007-02-06 02:21:39 · update #1
No! Its definatley not right. No one should be hitting a dog - what ever their age. You daughter will grow - are you still going to let her do that when shes 15? And what will happen when she has no animal to hit? Will she then hit a person? Probably as she'll be used to showing her anger that way. This is totally wrong. I can't believe that you have already let her behave that way. What if she hits you one day? Is that ok too? She is developing now - make sure you stop this or she will think that it is ok to be violent. Also, one day your dog might turn on her - and if not your dog, then perhaps the next one she hits.
2007-02-05 22:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO> This is her first relationship where she is the protector and the dog is the protected. Essentially what she lays down in terms of acceptable behaviour with the dog will likely inform her understanding of what is acceptable towards all the living things that come into her care.
BEATING UP THINGS YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO CARE FOR IS WRONG.
It's not about whether it hurts the dog, it's about what it teaches her. She needs to learn to be responsible and caring. You also have to teach her that you will protect the dog from her - because that is your job. You wouldn't be asking this question if you didn't have a hunch that something isn't good here - listen carefully to those hunches.
Beating out your anger is not sustainable. Sure it seems harmless when you are 5. But ask yourself - if she does this when she is 15 will it be OK? The answer is obviously no - and I assure you - it's a heck of a lot easier to stop her now than it is after she has had this nasty habit for 10 years. (this by the way, is a good rule of thumb for all her behaviour - if it's not sustainable, train her now to do the right thing - it may be a little harder now but it will be a LOT harder ifyou don't)
NOW - when you stop her - you don't want her to feel as though she is a bad person - just that she has chosen unwisely and needs to learn and make a different choice.
SO - give her a stuffed animal to beat up - or a pillow or something soft that won't hurt her. Encourage her to use words or drawings to get out what she is feeling.
ABSOLUTELY ensure that she understands that anger is normal and human and that you need to have outlets for it - but that it is NEVER ok to hurt another living thing.
The great thing about 5 year olds is that you can make mistakes and correct them and all is well. They are resilient and they fix easily. She'll be ok - what she is doing may be normal, but it isn't right or desireable. You do her a great favour by teaching her how to interact with her world in a way that will serve her all her life.
Good luck
jk
2007-02-06 06:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by jk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! Are you serious?!? Apart from the fact it animal cruelty, what's stopping the dog from turning round and giving her a taste of her own medicine? Even if you're dog is good natured, it won't be for much longer! You should be reported to animal welfare! Give your daughter some other way of getting her anger out!
In response to your additional information - stop winding people up it's not nice! You know how strongly people feel about stuff like this!
2007-02-06 10:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTLY NOT!!!!!! That's animal abuse!!!!! You need to get rid of the dog to a family that will love it, not beat it. If you let her hit the dog now, she'll be beating animals for the rest of her life. What about the dog? The dog is going to fear children for the rest of his life. What is wrong with you? Would you beat your 5 year old if you are angry? I'm sure the answer is NO. I wouldn't treat my dog any worse than I would treat my child. You have no right to have either pets or children!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-06 07:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. The dog doesn't want to get assaulted, and it doesn't deserve to get assaulted. As she gets older and stronger, the beatings will become more harsh for the dog. Plus, if you allow her to do it, it would make her think that it would be okay to take out her anger on other living things besides dogs, and that is not a good thing. I suggest you make her take out her anger on a pillow or something else that doesn't breathe, and leave the poor animal alone.
2007-02-06 06:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Cole 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! She should be taught responsibility for her own behaviour by other methods. What the F* can you be thinking.
A poor defensless animal being abused because you have no parenting skills! Give her a few years and this animal will be hurt when she whacks it with a bigger object or throws boiling water over it in a temper. You don't deserve to be in charge of kids or animals. I will be surprised if any one gives you support in this
2007-02-06 06:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?? Just wait until the dog has enough and decides to attack your little girl. That dog does not understand why it is being abused, and it will eventually have enough and fight back. Also, how is it right to teach your child to beat up something defenseless when shes angry?! What is wrong with you??
2007-02-06 09:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutley not. What is this teaching your daughter? It really doesn't matter that it's not causing "much damage." It's not a good sign when children abuse animals. I would take her to talk to a therpist. You shouldn't take this lightly at all! You should talk to a doctor about this and see if they can recommend you to someone for more help.
2007-02-10 05:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jen H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right to cause harm to any animal. Plus, teaching your child to attack animals will stay with her for the rest of her life. I think you may be putting her on a road to disaster. No animal should be abused, no matter how little damage you think he/she is getting. What would happen she gets older and starts stabbing it with a stick or whacking it with a bat?
2007-02-06 06:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by ebaydad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would be better to use an object that doesnt exist in reality, like an ordinary cushion, that way there is no chance this role play could be interpreted by your daughter as an ok response or give her some sort of power rush. yes she is young , but that makes her impressionable
2007-02-10 05:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋