Two of my friends betrayed me and told my boyfirned I was cheating on him! So naturally he set out to get some proof and filmed me with this other guy! Instead of confronting me about it he decided to play the footage infront of everyone at a party! Everyone stared and me and most laughed at me! I didn't know what to do i justs tood there! What would you have done? How would you have felt? ahhh it's driving me mad cos now everyone knows.
2007-02-05 22:23:19 · 15 answers · asked by HG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So sorry but u did kind of bring it on yourself. You cheated and have to face the consequences. Accept what you did and carry on with your life.
2007-02-06 04:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In times like this what you need to do, what you should have done before you got found out, maybe even before you did it is think about what you are doing. Think about the reasons. Rationalize. Are you just a fun loving spontanious person? did you do it cos it just felt good or because you liked the exitemint of doing something wrong? Or was it cos you were searching for something you weren't getting in you relationship?
You felt like you were the loser when he showed the tape at the party but it as all a question of belief. He believed in himself that he was right to expose and humiliate you and you believed you had been caught doing wrong and were sorry. That is why you lost.
BUT!!!! Look at what he did. He grapghically illustrated to all your friends that he is not man enough to keep his girl from straying. He doesn't give you good enough sex so you have to go off and find it somewhere else.
If you had believed in what you did and thought you were doing nothing wrong you would have been able to brazen it out and laugh it off. Maybe jst mentioning that you were having a better time with the other guy and some of the above stuff you would have won.
You might have even got some laughing at him but most, no matter what they actually thought, would just go along with what they think the crowd thinks.
If its any consolation most of the girls will probably picked up on what the vid showed, if only subconciously. They probably all find him less attractive but don't know why or realise it. unless its someones plan to get him free of you for them. Then who is betrayin who?
Think about what you want from a relationship. and go and find someone who wants the same thing. casual, monogamous, polyamourous?
Remember 'Love is love, but sex is sex'. Alot more people feel that than would admit it.
2007-02-06 09:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Heat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably felt exactly how he felt when he found out you were cheating - I would have felt very ashamed and left but in fairness I would not let it bother me for to long!! You should think cheating is wrong - this is what happens - don't do it again
2007-02-06 06:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating has consequences. It was humiliating for you, and you will probably always remember it. Lift up your head and carry on with the rest of your life. I am certain you will think twice before you cheat on anyone again.
2007-02-06 06:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by celianne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have felt guilty, ashamed and angry. But I knew I would only have myself to blame. I don't know what I would have done. Probably burst into tears and run off to be by myself. I would hide in my room and wait to see if any of my friends rang me.
2007-02-06 06:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you got away lightly.what would you have done if the shoe was on the other foot?Many years ago i found out an ex was cheating on me so i fed him hormone pills for 6 months now he has man boobs....
and i do regret it a little bit
2007-02-06 06:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by spuddylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo so called frends are crap,dump the frendship,talk to yo boyfrend if he can forgive u,if not,move on,there's nothing u can do,dont worry about those pepo @ the party,there have done worser things than u.and how nasty was what u were doing with the other guy,hope its not that bad.
2007-02-06 06:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question doesn't arise with me, because I would NOT do it.
My advice to you is wait for for more offers to come and sc**w you, since now everybody knows that you are a hore!
Congratulations!
Enjoy it! You made your bed, lie on it!
Good luck!
2007-02-06 06:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got caught and now you have to reep what you sow. It may not have been nice but neither was doing the dirty on him. You seem more concerned about yourself and not the fact that you hurt your guys feelings
2007-02-06 07:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What could you have done? You don't need friends or a bloke like that.Put it down to experience. Don't forget no one is perfect.
2007-02-06 07:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by nora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋