I have a friend who is a girl, everytime we go out somewhere for fun, i feel i always should be paying and i always do. But as im 16 and i dont have a job (yet!), my money is sure to run out at some point. I know when you have a crush on someone, you will do anything, and spend any amount on her. This is what i have done.
On the holidays, when we first started hanging out, i took her to haagen dazs and had one of those chocolate fondue. It is around 80AUD. Then a few days later, i took her to haagen dazs at her request and we had something else. Now she likes me to take her to haagen dazs, but im trying to keep an eye on my money limit.
How should i tell her, if she wants haagen dazs but i dont have the money for it, and dont feel like spending the huge amount of money with her. Not being selfish, but there are some things i am trying to save for and get personally.
2007-02-05 22:02:23 · 9 answers · asked by Matthew L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also,
Sometimes if we are haven't talked for a while or talks about another guy, it feels like ive wasted my money.
2007-02-05 22:08:40 · update #1
What if you are afriad to lose her?
2007-02-05 22:10:39 · update #2
At any age, the guy should not feel that he has to spend a lot of money to win her heart. If she is that kind of person, move on.
2007-02-05 22:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by starflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very sweet thought, but you have said the answer yourself that you are just 16, and you do not work yet. Looks like your freind is oblivious to this fact, knowingly or unknowingly. It is your duty to probably put it in very mildly, perhaps the next time she suggests haagen daz, you could just laugh it off saying ''how about another place....probably less expensive....''...bring it in slowly, on other occassions you could even tell her what your allowance is like, not the exact amount, but you could just say it in a way that you yourself do feel bad you could not take her to a place you like....either this, or you could just put it in bluntly...saying ''hey, u know what, i feel awful telling you, but iam like really squeezed with money....i have a problem at the moment, perhaps when i have my own job...it would be better...and I'd really luv to take you to all those places....for now lets save up a bit..?'' ..and another idea would be to go dutch...''how about us sharing the bill ?''....The choice is yours. If you do not stop now, you'd find yourself in situations you really wish you werent in. And then, you are being honest, and you are not being selfish because you have your own little personal things you may have to do. So absolutely nothing wrong in saying in any way you feel like. If she is true, and genuine, she'd understand and still be cool about it....or else....you know what I mean, and you know what to do, right ?
good luck
P.S. saw your additional notes, yes, and thats absolutely natural for you to feel that way, more than money wasted, you feel that probably she does not consider you special, and its just time and money wasted, that is, if you are tryingto impress her buying things. And then, I'd stick to the last line of my answer, if you are afraid of losing her, I mean, if she does not understand or appreciate your part, dont you think its not really worth the relationship ? It may be sad, but its better a stop now, than regret later, when things get out of hand, today its haagan daz, tomorrow....you donno, do u ?
2007-02-05 22:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight-up playa'. You don't have haagen daz's money to last a lifetime. Try and tell her in a comical, yet assertive manner or something.
Or... you can get a job & treat'r right.
PS... watch out for dem gold diggers, they come in all ages, sizes and sexes.
2007-02-05 22:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rush_Informer01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, lesson learned. Next time she wants to go to Haagen dazs tell her you can't afford it today. Then say, well, I do have 40AUD, do you have the other 40?
2007-02-05 22:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by clarice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't afford to go.Tell her you are saving for something and would like spend time with her doing something that doesn't cost money. If she has a problem with that then she is not the girl for you anyway.
2007-02-05 22:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just wanna spent some time with you but is not a really nice way. Ask her to do something different and less money ussage>?
2007-02-05 22:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Yakusoku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do,,is not to ask her out again,,and then only way you can save for money is invite her home then have some popcorns,instead,or ask your mom to bake or cook something special then while having your stomach full,,,watch tv or watch dvd's ,,you can spend money not too expensive but i think it will be memorable for her..its not bad to tell her the truth,maybe she will understand you.
2007-02-05 22:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by trixie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she mentions going, simply tell her you can't afford that right now and suggest somewhere else. There's nothing unmanly or mean about that.
2007-02-05 22:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by marti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋