It is a crush but not as simple as that. It all started because he helped me with something and I am grateful to him. Very drawn to him. This semester he is not in any of my classes and I don't run into him that often anymore. Even when we do, we only say hi and sometimes we don't even do that. I think destiny is just not on my side and I think I will never be with him. But I can't accept it. I have been seeing him talk to this girl a lot recently and I feel pain when I see him laughing and smiling with her. I am so tired of trying to run into him so that we can finally talk to each other but I think it will never happen. I want to give up on him and I really feel for him. I think I am just paranoid but I think they will be an item soon. I think he may forget me soon since we don't talk anymore. He did like me last semester but I guess not that much.
How do I get over him? I am lulling into semi depression now. I find it awkward impossible to go up to talk to him actually. help?
2007-02-05 21:52:38 · 7 answers · asked by bendecida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well . . .
for your information you are not the only person suffering those things . . . ME too . . .
Let's get over it . . .
First let me tell you mine . . .
For the first time I saw him . . . he became my crush. I like him because we were both good at arts. after several days and months . . . the feelings that I felt evolved! It became love. Up to this point I still love him. A year passed and he is not my classmate anymore. I tried to be with him for some time but this girl . . .(let her name be JYC) was always there to ruin my moments with him. I used to see him and her laughing. I always get hurt everytime I saw them. I also get hurt when other people used to pair them. I tried to be blind so I wont get hurt too much. But it didn't worked at all. I tried to pray and seek help from the Lord. Good thing . . . now I used to talk with him everytime I saw him in a day.
The only thing I can advice to you is NEVER EVER GIVE UP ON HIM. DON'T CUT THE CHAINS CONNECTING YOU AND HIM. You might never know what was going to happen. There is always a way to solve things like this, maybe not this day, maybe not this year . . . maybe not now . . . but who knows . . . he might be the destinied one for you.
Don't give up. Let's both face the consequences of loving a person who we don't know if they also love us!
2007-02-06 22:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by ~§~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him next, approach him. Ask how he is, what classes he has this semester, how they're going how are the teachers, etc. Tell him you enjoyed his company in the class that you had together and miss talking. Tell him that you feel that you never thanked him properly for the help he gave you with your project. Then say you'd like to buy him lunch or coffee or whatever to thank him properly.
Whatever you do, keep it casual. If you act or sound desperate, he'll literally run in the opposite direction. Be up and happy--you probably will truly be happy talking to him, so this should be easy. LOL
BTW, you are obsessing with a man you hardly know. Has this happened before? This is not healthy. The resulting depression is not healthy either. You should talk to someone about this. Your school should have a counselor who may be able to help or give you a name. Take care of yourself.
2007-02-06 06:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him and ask him out what have you got to lose. If he says no then you don't see him much anyway, so you won't need to feel awkward too often and if he says yes, you win. I know it would be hard but sounds like your at the point were it is easier than being depressed.
2007-02-06 06:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to, but really got to get over this guy and try find someone else to help take your mind off him! Don't let the thought of him stop you from finding another guy, and when you do find someone else, put him first in everything and only think about him! Soon enough you should forget about this other guy! Good luck!
2007-02-06 05:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Motti _Shish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grip yourself by the shoulders and shake some sense into yourself! you fool! Ask him out for a drink or something, then work all your charms on him hon! Show some thigh and boobs if you like! But let him know your interested and available!!!! And for Christ sake stop pitying yourself! Get up and go for it, just once in your life! Have a good day!
2007-02-06 06:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what? My friend got nearly the same. She just go and ask him at the library. I don't know what happend other than that. She won't tell me...
2007-02-06 06:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by Yakusoku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just a attraction of to be together he only help u as friend he don"t love u he just like u as friend
2007-02-06 06:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋