I'm 30, married to an HIV+ woman, don't have a job and am a Bi-Polar I alcoholic.
2007-02-05 21:52:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
What kind of answer are you looking for?
I would say first things first and that is make sure you have a grasp on your bi-polar and your drinking, then get a job. Piece your life together and if you love your wife and want to stay with her, then do so. Sure she has HIV, but do you love her less because of it?
2007-02-06 03:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by christerosterling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i think u can turn your selfaround. But you need to focus.
The job... go out and get one. It doesnt matter if you dont have any qualifications, if you do, even better. So get a job, and get the money coming in.
If your an alcoholic, go to an aa meeting. Youd be surprised how much they help people, if not, see someone about it, a doctor perhaps.
With the other 2... you cant really help those. Im sure you love your wife, and you can still be with her... just dont go doing anything where you could contract her hiv+.
The bi-polar.... there are treatments. Not a cure... but with the right help, u can live a normal life.
If you dont do any of these.... life will stay dull. But even with one of these out of the way... and taking it one step at a time.. you can live a life of great wonder.
Let me know how it goes!!
Good luck =)
2007-02-06 06:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the bi-polar disorder treated (get some meds from your MD or have him send you to a shrink). Concurrently, you've got to stop drinking: the meds will do you no good if you are drinking. You will be in exactly the same situation as before, I agree with Radames, though: AA may be of use (even if you are the non-religious type - as am I). If so, then just ignore that stuff and focus on the useful elements of their programme . Once you've pulled yourself up by you bootstraps a bit you will be in a much better position to land a job. Again, your first priority is to become STABLE, You need to cross this bridge to get to the next, and the next...Don't procrastinate any longer. It won't get better - it will either stay the same or get worse with the passage of time so you must act now, I wish you good luck,
2007-02-06 06:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start prioritizing. Start by finding a job and going to AA meetings....that'll take care of 2 of your problems, then you can go to a doctor for some meds for your bi-polar condition....However, during all this, you should take care of your wife.......life is not easy, especially when sh1t like this happens too. Believe me, I may not have the same problems as you, but I do have them, they're just different. take it one day at a time, and try to solve one thing at a time and move to the next one.
2007-02-06 06:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I 'm 30 too, no girl accept me as a friend. but fortunatly have a part time job.
be optimistic , and quiet alcohol
at first you should find a job
then you should know that all of the meaning of marriage is not sex, if you love your wife and she loves you too, is great, have a romantic dinner with each other....
good luck
2007-02-06 06:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by arash m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm go looking for a job would be a start, theirs only so much day time t.v a person can take!!!
2007-02-06 05:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whew.....well, my best advice is to take it one day at a time...good luck
2007-02-06 05:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray
2007-02-06 06:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋