It has been a month since my gf and I broke up. The whole January 2007 has been a blur. I have had to change the ways of my lifestyle because of the breakup. I dated her for a year and a half. We practically stayed together and did everything together. We were fighting alittle and then one day she said thats enough and a day later she kisses this other guy, she called friend. Two weeks later I went to see her at her flat wanting her back, she said no, it is not a good idea. Then I saw this guys toothbrush in her bathroom. It made me quite upset, how is that possible for a girl to move on so fast. I mean my toothbrush was there 2 weeks before!!! What must I do to let her go in my heart so I dont have to think about all the negative things that keep on popping up into my head. I cant seem to look at another girl at the moment without thinking about her. How can love hurt so much?
2007-02-05 21:32:03 · 10 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to allow yourself to respect her decisions even though it hurts you so much. You also need to realise that you must experience this pain and change in your life knowing that there is more to occur in your life and you will love again. Remember the good times you had try not to feel you have been forgotten or rejected etc. Please trust in your heart that you are to move forward as well, of course you love her but what you must also do is love yourself enough to realise life has not ended but it is yet to begin. Be brave and start dating other girls when you feel you have greived long enough about her. You owe it to your spirit within to get back out there and have some fun. You will be alright once you accept the changes in your life and know that it's all meant to be this way.It is for personal growth that this has occurred for without changes in our lives we cannot grow spiritually.
2007-02-05 21:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by clarissa l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no way to break this to you softly...but if you love her as much as you say you do..then you can love her enough to let her go. It's going to hurt because leaving someone that you have feelings for always hurts. But the one thing you have to keep in mind is your own mental stability. You have to make sure that you don't get so sour about the break up that you start to do unhealthy things such as stalking and harrassing her. The best thing you can do, is to find things to keep your attetintion. Get a new hobby. All the time that you would have spent with her you can now fill with doing postitive things to better yourself. You can get a part time job, take up a sport, or even go back to school and learn new things. And just remember what it was that made you two break up and learn from that. I wouldn't say that you were jilted out of a relationship, but I would say that you how a new learning experience to add to the list. You have a better understanding of what it is you want in a woman and you know now what you can do better to keep a woman happy. you should never let a break up break you. Take from it the good and the bad and turn it into something postive that you can learn from. And just remember that life goes on and your heart won't hurt forever. Good luck in life and I wish you all the best.
2007-02-05 23:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation before (years ago) and started dating after a few months. Long story short is that I hadn't let go of the relationship with her and started dating someone who I eventually married (although we divorced and both remarried someone else). Looking back, I can honestly say not letting go of that relationship was a huge mistake on my part.
Don't make the same mistake by holding on to something that doesn't exist.
2007-02-05 22:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is a sad story. I dont want to hurt you more but she was propably dating this guy without that you know it and she found the ocasion to brake with you in one of your fights. You know fellings are not easy to find in our years. Sex and money have replaced love and romantism. ANd i am a romantic one and i am sad to say that. Good courage it will take you some time to overcome this. Because you loved her and you propablystill love her.
2007-02-05 21:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by alohasenior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to the words of diane some and racing red , its good for u keep busy , go and find another , u are a man its easy to forget , why she can do then u can do too, she change then u can change , go so many fish , more beautiful, kind and more than her, wish u luck
2007-02-05 21:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love hurts but one thing i see is that they were seeing each other way back and she just swapped u for the guy sorry man,but let time heal ur heart
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2007-02-05 21:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by broderm2k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say good bye to her...
start fishing another girl... this is the medicine for you.... there is a famous sayings : "love is the only medicines for love failure"
2007-02-05 21:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Racingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her and go back to the 'drawing board', ok? Rem: galz are galz and so are boyz, so watsup!!!!!
2007-02-05 21:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by solot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, it does....time will heal your wounds....don't rush into anything...keep yourself busy and try to avoid places that you went together or places where she might be..good luck
2007-02-05 21:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.......i think your x is MEAN!! and i would think of how MEAN she is when u start missing her!!!
2007-02-05 21:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by LaPalma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋