I'm 16 years-old and I'm a virgin....?

Question

All my friends have already "done it", but I refuse to.. They call me a prude and make fun of me because I won't... I told them that I want to wait untill I'm married and they laughed at me.
My friend's boyfriend said, "It's the 21st century, Hun.. Guy's don't wanna date virgin.. They wanna Date a girl who'll put out!"... Is this true?... What I want to know is if I'm doing the right thing? And am I a prude for not having sex?

Answer 1

Hun, im glad there are still girls like you in the world who respect themselves!
You are doing the right thing. You have your morals and your decisions and if you want to wait, then so be it.
When you're ready, be it marriage or later in life, then its your decision but dont get swept up by others who go with the flow just for the hell of it.
I said I would wait until marriage (but i lasted until i was 22) im 31 now and wish i had not done such a stupid thing back then and waited a bit longer but you cant change the past.
There are guys out there who are virgins who want the same - to wait for the right person

You're NOT a prude!

What's terrible is these days girls as young as 10 are having sex - omg, when i was 10 all i could think about was playing with toys, riding a bike etc.

You'll know when you're ready - until such time .. ignore the others and follow your decisions :)

Answer 2

I find it sad that the word "prude" has become a term of reproach. Especially in a world society where pre-marital sex has become an important health issue. Think about it!

Did you know that the term "prude" use to mean "wise"? It was a a word that was modeled from preudomme, "a man of experience and integrity." Old French 'prod' means "wise, prudent," "Prōdis" in turn comes from Late Latin prōde, "advantageous," derived from the verb 'prōdesse', "to be good."

Despite this history filled with usefulness, profit, wisdom, and integrity, prude has become a term of scorn or contempt. People would rather see you make the same foolish and potentially life altering, health threatening mistakes that they did. They followed suit of others...why can't you??
You know that sex is important in more serious marital commitments. You know you aren't there yet. Just between you, me and the fence post, will your friend's boyfriend be there for your friend in a couple of years? Statistically, more than likely, probably not. Sad to say. Of course he is going to say that to you, he wants your friend to "put out." Is that the only reason he is dating your friend?? How shallow and unloving if this is the case.
You will find someone who respects you for who you are. There is someone out there for you that believes the same way. It's none of your friend's, your friend's boyfriend's or anyone else's business, aside from a boyfriend of yours, what your sexual/personal life is, anyway.

Answer 3

Congratulations! You are the kind of a girl who increasingly becomes a rare species. You are not prude, ubnormal or stupid. On the contrary, you are RARE, SPECIAL and very intelligent!

Its not true that guys, real guys, dont like dating a virgin. No one would ask a girl if she is virgin or not in order to date her!

Guys would jump into dating her, because they know that she is decent, honest, trustworthy and respectable. Unless, of course, they want just to sc**w her and then dump her, for being cheap, sluty and easy going.

Don't listen to their pressure and be yourself!

At 16 you have the whole world waiting for you, if you concentrate on your future. The right time and the right man will come.

All the best!

Answer 4

First off, a lot of your friends are probably lying about their sexual experiences. Most kids tend to exaggerate their sexual experiences. A lot of guys like to brag about getting laid and a lot of women have this idea that having sex somehow makes them mature...so you get this idea that "everyone is doing it" when the reality is that SOME people are doing it, but by no means are they the majority. Also, having sex says nothing about your ability to date or be in a relationship. What makes for good dating and relationships is personality, attraction, and communication. Being a virgin does NOT impact your personality, make you a poor communicator, or impact how attractive you are unless it is making you desperate (like it makes a lot of stupid guys). If you are finding guys who just want to date girls strictly for sex, then you will find guys who are basically jumping through hoops to get into your pants. That cheapens the whole experience because the guys in those situations are basically treating you like a masterbatory object and you will probably come out of that situation feeling cheap and used (which you would be). Ask yourself what it means to be a prude. When I think of a prude, I think of someone who is asexual, close minded about trying new things, or someone who is disgusted by the idea of sex. You seem to want sex just fine, but you have larger priorities that are compelling you into waiting for marriage. That places sex in a more realistic position (relative to life) and is a FAR more mature attitude than a lot of your peers are sharing.
Keep in midn that decent guys want to date an awesome girl. A woman's sexual activity is not necessarily a fair indicator of that. A girl might be a virgin with little sexual experience, but if she has a great personality and is fun to be with...any guy worth his salt will want to date her. If you are thinking about things in the long term, you have to keep in mind that you can't have sex all of the time nor will you want to in a committed relationship (marriage or otherwise). You can only have sex so much! There has to be something else that is more important and that quality is LOVE and interest. Sex is icing on the cake. It enhances love and is one of many foundations that intimacy is built on. It is not the ONLY foundation, though. Guys in middle school or high school are living in a hormone soaked world. Once those hormones cool off, guys quickly find out that there is way more to girls. Some guys in high school already realize that. Try looking for them.

Answer 5

Hi girl,this is a very nice question. You seem to be very upset by this but relax this is not a calamity. you are only 16 still young and have plenty of time to do it later. why be in a hurry? there are two ways you can take it, either you have sex before marriage or wait until you are married.if you decide to have sex before marriage,there are many things which you should consider.first you should have sex if you are ready to have it and if you want to have it. you should not act under peer pressure. your first time sex is something which you will remember for your whole life, so think well before you do it. As you know the first time may be painful for some girls, so it is important that you have a guy who is caring for you and is not only interested in sex so that you can remember it as a nice experience. you say that you are going to wait until marriage but I'm sure that if you find the right guy you will change your mind. but do wait until you are ready and do have protected sex.

Answer 6

no, if you feel that you dont want to have sex, then stick with what you think is right. Dont let other people step on your moral beliefs just because their opinons seem right. I have that same belief that you should wait until you are married before you have intercourse. Yeah some people have called me prude or a tease but I dont let a couple people change what is right for me. So whatever you decide, just make sure YOU think its right and true to yourself. good luck in life :]

Answer 7

I have to say, I am so proud to see some one value her self enough to put up with all the rude comments and still stand her ground and protect her morals. way to go, just use your head (I don’t really have to tell you that, since it seems like you already are) and do what is right. I am not saying don't do it until you are married and stuff coz some times it is really hard not to, but wait until you find the right person who actually respect your decisions and love you and like for who you are, and then you might change your decisions you never know. Seems like you are coming from a good family and you have grate roll models. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

Don't force yourself to do something you will regret sooner or later.

It would be more shame if you'll have sex just for the sake of having sake... very shallow and meaningless.

For a smart girl like you, you deserve more and you deserve the best. As they say, patience is a virtue... and the best is always saved for last.

And guys still like a VIRGIN... they give high respect to them. If I guy would dump you because you have no sexual experience yet.. then you would know right then and there his true colors.

Answer 9

The only kind of boys/men who won't date virgins are the kind that only want to have sex. If you do, you are going to keep doing it until he finds a better one and throws you out. He will never want a relationship with you, he just wants to to lay there and use you. If that's what you are looking for, that do it.
If you want a guy to love you, not your ability to make him ***, then you should wait until you feel ready.
As for your friend's boyfriend, as a man I can translate what he said into proper English...
"It's the 21st century. We only want women who are stupid enough to lay down and spread their legs every time we want it."

Answer 10

No you are not a prude, it is nice to finally hear someone saying they want to wait, i think that you should be really proud of yourself, i am 19 and still a virgin and am very proud of it i know that my bf who i am going to marry will really appreciate the gift of virginity, who gives a damn about what your friends think, and if your bf only wants to sleep with you dump his bum, ur worth better love.

Mwaaaaaaaaaah