Is it possible to date a very ugly girl and be happy?

Question

Just to clear things up, im' not THAT shallow! But I do beleive in being attracted to the person whom I like. How else do u choose who to approach? It's based upon their looks.

But yeah, i've had the odd really repulsive looking girl approach me and i have no attraction to them whatsoever but i thought that maybe i should stop being shallow and jsut give it a try some time. Will it work? Like could i fall in love over personality only? Cos there is no attraction physically over some of these girls at all. As in Zilcho.. lol

i'd like personal accounts of success or failure thanks! And the implications it will have upon what ppl think of me etc

not to be too sterotypical or anything but sometimes ugly girls don't even have the good personality... They can be nasty or incredibly shy. Some act like they have some massive chip on their shoulder and so they hate the world and every guy in it.

Answer 1

With most people there is a mutual physical attraction that sparks. But it also possible to be attracted to one's mind and heart. Beauty lies only skin deep. You could be drop dead gorgous and have a heart that's black as coal. Bad attitudes make for some really ugly people. On the other hand you could be physically unattractive but once you get to know that person, they could be the most beautiful soul you've ever met.
As they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 2

If you dont feel atracted to her it wont work....its a shame because the world would be a niccer and more balanced place but the thing is your heart pays attention to both: the outside and the inside, still if you value personality over looks you will be ahead of many people that rather be with someone they find attractive instead of being with someone they like as a person and that treats them right.
You can be really good friends with the ones you dont find attractive because there wont be any kind of "tensions" or questions in the back of your mind if she would be a good "partner" for you so you can really open up to them and get an insight on what women are really looking for in a guy and that may help you in the future.

Answer 3

Been there. Ok, I am an attractive women, and thought Id quit being shallow and date some guys I didn't neccesaily find jaw dropping. Here's the crazy part, once I got to know them, my first impression of their level of "hotness" totally changed, depending on my veiw of them, as a person. Some guys got more ugly. But a few became absolutely gorgeous to me! And one I fell in love with and married...and he's best friend...(and not too shabby in the sack, hee hee)

Answer 4

Dorian, i understand you ought to not have self assurance me regardless of the indisputable fact that it really is authentic when I say, not all females decide a guy via looks. those that do decide a guy via looks have a tendency to be extremely shallow, do you extremely decide on a woman like that? My boyfriend isn't the finest searching fellow available yet you understand what? i do not supply a f*ck because he treats me with a lot appreciate, is smart, and quite loves me compared to the different douchebags I dated. it should be a lengthy time period or ought to take the shortest time till eventually a woman finally realizes that you're an awesome man or woman. So please purely have patience! Oh and a touch tip, not anybody will imagine you're grotesque, each body has a diverse idea of what they imagine is sweet-looking. dangle in there!

Answer 5

If you are repulsed by them, it will never work. Your mind will only be taking it whatever there is about the person that repulses you. There are people out there that aren't affected by a persons looks, they are able to love that person for what they are inside. Apparently you don't have that. Some people have ended up loving a person after some time, because they got to know them, and at first they couldn't find anything attractive about them. I have had friends tell me their spouses got better looking to them the longer they were married. Even the love deepens.

Answer 6

Im a really pretty girl and I told my husband when we dated that if I should be in a car wreck and my face got smashed in would he love me just the same and he said yes he would. See? If you base a relationship on outer only you miss out on what could be. And someone is only ugly because u think so but inner is the key. If I was ugly I would still be the same person within. Im ugly to some people sure but I think happiness needs more than just a pretty face.

Answer 7

You can, and will, find flaws in everybody. However if you find someone completely repulsive, chances are it wont work, unless she has a perfect personality match for you, then later on you might find things that might have seemed repulsive to you at one time dimish, or those features may become sentimental and adorable to you (ie, ears that stick out, big nose, whatever). Focus on the positive things, like if she has beautiful eyes.

Answer 8

you will never know if you don't give it a try. how do you define ugly? in my opinion, a person could only be good looking or not so good looking and there isn't really a fine line showing or proving that one is ugly. so you should at least give that other person a chance to show the other side of her beauty.

Answer 9

I have found that people I thought were not so good looking, but got to know, became better looking if they were nice. The problem is if you care about what others think then you may never be able to make it work. I think if you see them as repulsive then it would be hard to even spend enough time with them to get to know them.

Answer 10

Sure why not give it a shot? You said for yourself that looks aren't everything. But maybe make friends with the girl first before making a step foot forward. She might not be half bad as you think.