My boyfriend & I met in 2000 a wk after starting uni, were together til Dec 05 when he dumped me, we were having problems but I didnt realise they were that bad.We got back 2gthr end Feb 06. We sorted our problems, re-built our relationship, moved in 2gthr & are v happy together. I think overall the break made our relationship stronger.
But it hurt me so much as I never stopped loving him & it was me that pushed to get back together, not him asking for me back.
He told me that while we were apart he had a relationship with a girl he met before we broke up. Only 3wks after they got together he slept with her, they did it about 10times over a 1-1.5 months relationship before he ended it.
I only slept with him after 1.5 yrs & considered waiting for marriage. I'm not really religious but it really meant a lot 2 me that we'd only slept with each other. Now that's gone & I dont know how to deal with it. It doesnt feel the same and I keep thinking about him with her. What can I do?
2007-02-05 20:57:00 · 25 answers · asked by Kat W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe the best thing - if you stay together it may stop him wondering what sex would be like with someone else.
I would ask yourself though if he pushed the end of the relationship with you because he had feelings for the girl by that time.
Lots of people have an uneven balance on sexual partners, lots of people don't even discuss previous partners. It can't be undone, but you love him and that is what is important. He maybe had to go through this to realise what he wanted, maybe you're lucky because you already knew.
2007-02-05 22:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Em 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What kind of weapon, the only firearm you can legally have is a rifle with your one friend being 19. I would say it can't be Illegal (only if your drunk and the keys are in the ignition). But I would be very careful. Don't do it at any rest stops, the safest place would be somewhere with 24 hour ssurveillanceand with people around all the time.
2016-03-29 07:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please forgive me for saying you shouldn't have slept with your boyfriend even if you have been together for years. For me, being pure is one of the most valuable thing that a lady could give to her husband. Anyway, going back to your question, the only way to overcome the thought of your boyfriend being with somebody else is to completely trust in yourself - that you can make him feel loved than anyone else in the world. There are many ways you can do to show how much you love him beside going with him in bed. Being thoughtful like bringing or surprising him with something he doesn't expect, giving him a little massage on the neck, arms or at the palm of his hands is also very soothing especially when you know he's tired or stressed with work and other things which you think will really help him feel your love. I'm sure that even if he is still thinking of some other woman, he will not give up on you considering the love that you have shown him.
2007-02-05 21:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are like Zim**bwe they are ruled by dicks.
Girl if its too much for u to bear just call it quits ur
thinking will only hurt u in the end and believe u me of u leave him today nothing much will happen cos he'll 4ever remain a man and there's nothing u can do abt it,
If u cant let him go, Hold on to him and stop thinking abt that it will only ruin u and the relationship u've worked so hard to create and sustain. All the best.
2007-02-05 21:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gal! History will always repeat itself. U might have sorted ure problems by pushing ureself 2 him but u will never be able 2 control him in future. He has learned u r soft-heartened to him and will always take advantage of u. This boy is out 2 use u and will be thro with u very soon, just try to deny him that... and u will see. My instincts r right, am a man like him. Take care.
2007-02-06 00:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jimmie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way - if you leave him you will find it difficult to find someone
1 You are as happy / happier with
2 Is still a virgin
On the other hand he has been honest enogh to tell you about his past and really can't be blamed as you had split at the time, stick with him unless it is too unbareable - try speaking to him about (although not in to much detail) it may help
2007-02-05 21:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself why you can't get over something that happened over two years ago. He is not with her now and by the fact he told you it sounds like he is trying to be honest about what happened. You have a good thing going it seems so work on letting it go. If this doesn't work, you may want to seek a counselor for advise.
2007-02-05 21:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider moving out and starting over again. It seems like a lot of the work in the relationship is being done by you. His telling you about the other relationship has only increased the lowering of your self esteem.
2007-02-05 21:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Venita Peyton 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day he moved on men are like sex mad people, they have to have it of you cant except what he did then you cant be together. Also if you pushed to get back with him and he did it he obviously was happy being single and hasonly moved in with you too keep you happy. He obviouslyloves you but he is unhappy and so are you so i think you both need to move on
2007-02-05 22:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that hurts a lot!been there before but a lil different...a couple of months before we broke up, i learned that he found a new one and he admitted that he slept with her...I cant help but cry about it but you know what, marriage is out of this...even a long term relationship cant tell if you'd end up marrying one person..just be glad you're with each other again,,be strong in your relationship..you cant blame him for what he did..he's a man...:(
2007-02-05 21:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by sweetangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋