My girlfriend and I have been living togeth for about 6 yrs.. We were recently both saved (praise the lord!!) I asked her to marry me on x-mas, but not planning on a wedding till Nov.. Should we go to a justice of the peace to make it legal, then have a cerimony in Nov.? Its been weighing heavy on my heart what I should do??
2007-02-05 20:46:55 · 13 answers · asked by aksnowman31 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
if u both would be more comfortable with your living relationship if it was 'legal' then have a civil ceremony now and a celebration later
2007-02-05 20:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a difficult situation!
In any case,abstain from sex from now until you are legally married.
I know that two people having a relationship can live together,but it most likely would be very tempting for both of you.My suggestion would be to get legally married by the JP,and have the traditional ceremony and wedding in November.The only trouble with that scenario is that it might make your wedding day in November feel a little less special.
And congrats,by the way :)
2007-02-06 04:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Serena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's great. Yes, i think it's a good idea to get married as soon as possible. You could have the ceremony and reception later. Unless you want to stay celibate until the wedding, that would be another option. I think the time is too long though. That's awesome that you asked her to marry you and you both got saved. That's a great testimony, God bless you.
2007-02-06 04:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Annmaree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Paul says if two cannot abstain, they should marry. Go marry that woman and save yourself and her from hell fire. You are already living together which means it will be very difficult to abstain, therefore you have no choice but to marry now and celebrate later. I was in the same situation and we got baptized and married the next day. Everything worked out just fine. I am a Seventh-Day Adventist.
2007-02-06 04:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by cardo11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are feafull and your ego is fooling you. you both are caught in a world of self deception wait until your sure that you all are marrying for yourselves instead of that false acceptance of peer pressure from the church and your religion. being saved is being born again in the flesh any other way is self delusionally hidden of the ego in which is dangerous. Beware dig deep and ask youself in solitude provided you are not in denial of your own gut instinct make sure your feeling of being saved is not possiveness of the women you love out of guilt or jealousy or will not last long. Your are spiritual married anyone according common law statuets
2007-02-06 05:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by shirley j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've already been living together for 6 years. What is 8 months' difference going to make?
2007-02-06 04:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called conviction and yes I would rush it to the JP and have the ceremonial wedding later if necessary....May God Bess you both and congratulations both on the marriage and accepting Jesus!
2007-02-06 04:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by djmantx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is weighing heavy on your heart, that is the Holy Spirit convicting and the Holy Spirit convicts you of sin. Yes, it is a sin.
2007-02-06 04:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have did it to long you cant save it now you are both going to Hell no matter what you do. Sorry that's just the way God works. It's just to late for you. I wish Christianity could help but there is just nothing to be done you two are just the fatality condemned.
2007-02-06 04:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by GODZILLA CHICKEN 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say you are Saved yet you use an x in place of Christ in Christmas maybe you should try again
2007-02-06 04:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋