I am Asian, so my culture may be a lot different but I would like to know the opinion of ppls from multi culture.
2007-02-05 20:42:57 · 7 answers · asked by markk2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't plan to live with parents. I would certainly help them financially if they needed help, and if it came to the point that they needed to live with me I would never turn them away. It wouldn't be my first choice, because I believe a couple needs privacy in a marriage. In the Bible it refers to a man and woman leaving their families to live together to start their own family.
2007-02-05 20:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an only child and I have been wondering about the same problem. I have only my mom and we are very close. But it's important to live separately at least for an year after marriage. This will prevent a lot of problems that will come from well meaning interference from parents. But if you could find a place to live which is a bit close to your parents home it will be easier for the parents to let go. It's important to have a separate life as much as possible because once your parents are too old to live separately you will have to include them in your home... After the wedding it would be great to make the separation gradual by visiting them regularly and calling them often so that they don't feel left out.
2007-02-06 05:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a real advantage. They look after the kids, offer additional security at home, especially as myself and wife, both are career oriented. They have preserved the culture, which we both, could never have done. The kids are well behaved and happy. I can plan a movie with wife, a weekend getaway, or a week of work in another city, without any tension, thanks to the parents.
2007-02-06 05:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you im asian too and we have this predetermined accountability to look after our parents but not necessarily singled right? we can always look after our parents even if we are married. but i know that i might marry late because i will have to make sure my parents are okay first before i tie the knot and because im the only chid, im the only one they got. it make a while before i can finally tell myself, ok my parents are fine, time to start my family now. but im sure your parents wouldn't want you to be singled. they would love to have grandchildren and i know you would like to have a family too. :-) just take it slowly. God has set a right time for everything.
2007-02-06 05:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
Right now neither of my parents need any help and being looked after, but even when/if they should need it, I wouldn't take them in.
I would try as much as I could to help financially though.
2007-02-06 04:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are adults capable of taking care of themselves, they don't need anyone to look after them.
2007-02-06 04:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not, my happiness will suffer, my marriage will suffer, my health will suffer, please don't do it, you will regret it. Of course if you want to look as a 'good child' then do it, you will only be 'good' for a while, they will become more and more rely on you and you will burn out
2007-02-06 05:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋