how does one survive a long distance relationship?

Question

experience please.
he's my 1st bf, we've been going out for a year and he's transfering to a far away school.
help.

Answer 1

Long distance relationships require a great deal of trust, commitment, and sacrafice. They can be done, but i am warning you, they are very very tough. Before going into one, make sure you are well prepared for any negative outcome. Trust me I know, ive been in one. I had been with my guy for 4 years when i moved and we loved each other soooo much. But it is so hard. People grow apart as they start to have new experinces without their partner, are more likely to cheat, and just plain fall out of love.
However, if you are both really commited to making it work and (this is very important!!) have abosolutely no reason not to trust each other, then proceed, but proceed with caution.

First of all, it is very important that you talk to each other on the phone EVERY DAY. Even if you do not have time for a long talk, just make sure to check in with each other some point during the day. One couple i know in a sucessful long distance relationship talk to each other on the phone every night and go to sleep with the phones on so its like they are "sleeping together" (you will need a cell phone with unlimited nighttime minutes for this!)

send each other love notes and little care packages sporadically.

See each other AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

make a pact to be very honest with each other. once one person starts to feel a change in their feelings, make sure to talk it out with the other person.

Although you may trust your partner whole-heartedly, maybe you should be just a little suspicous. Try to know where they are and who they are hanging out with. Do not be possesive or overly jealous, but just know that cheating does occur a LOT in long distance relationships even with generally very monogamous and trust worthy people.

Send each other cute little text messages throughout the day.

Watch the same movie on the phone together as a "date"

get a web-cam.

www.lovingyou.com has lots of great romantic ideas/tips/inspirations and lots of great advice for long-distance romance.

Look I am not trying to scare you with all the negative things i said before, but i really believe that you can never fully be prepared for just how hard it is. I know i wasnt. Just know that sometimes you love and things dont work out, but as long as you learned from it, then its ok. No matter what happens, you will be ok, and you will move on.
Most likely and hopefully you guys will be ok, but just be prepared TO WORK HARD FOR IT. If you guys both are willing and prepared to put in the hard work, then you will be ok. Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You have to look at how serious this relationship has been going for that year and what you have accomplished...where do you want this relationship to go? Are you thinking long term planning or is it a 'let's see how things go' attitude that you are looking at? Then of course there is the phone and the internet and courier service and all kinds of other means to get yourself connected and stay connected. Unless you both are sure of yourselves, you will not be able to know where it is leading you to....who knows either of you might find new friends or might get back to each other again if you are comfortable with each other.... the future is unpredictable so make the best of the time you have and cherish those moments.....good luck!!

Answer 4

I was in a long distance relationship where he was the best. He didn't do anything I wouldn't do. There has to be trust, because if there isn't, there's no point in being together. If you're always wondering where the other is, when are you not arguing?

Answer 5

well ill tell you that its pretty hard to handle a long distance relationship i mean not seeing the person u are with, just nothing what im trying to say is that its going to be hard you would have to trust each other a hole lot and only time you will be spending is on the phone and write each other letters or threw the email but as long as u have that together you should be alright good luck with it and i wish you the best

Answer 6

me and my bf have been together for 7 years....3 years out of 7 we spent living in the same place (when we were in high school), and 4 years untill now we've been 4 hours apart (because each of us went to different university) ..

ofcourse there have been alot of ups and downs, arguments here and there but we have true love for one another and we really can't get enough of each other when we meet !!

We communicate via phonecalls everyday, msn, emails.....and we see each other probably about once a month if we're lucky..

Long distance relationship is not easy, it hurts, and it makes u feel lonely...but it depends on how much u guys care and love each other....

You have to ask this quesntion to urself: is he worth it for me to go through this?? ... if your heart says yes, then never let it go!!!

Goodluck :)

Answer 7

Long distance is hard. But it is possible... Im experienced, my hubby was in USA before we married and I am in south africa. We stayed in touch with mostly yahoo messenger and webcam, pc to pc calls, letters and emails. We also sent little things by post to each other. Try it for a while but if its too hard rather let it go because I will be honest, long distance takes alot of trust and not everyone was made for it. Good luck

Answer 8

Is he coming back?
If you have definite future plans, it may work.
My experience may be very different from your because I was about 30 when it happened to me. I had a long distance relationship with the woman who is now my wife.
As I said above, it will only work if you will definitely be getting together again, and he is mature enough. Remember that most teenage boys will chase ANY female that smiles at them.

Answer 9

Ive had a very far distance relationship with my first boyfriend. He moved to Texas right after we graduated High School....and we lived in New York..and we stayed together...and we talked everynight on the phone...and i stayed strong just by always thinking about when he was going to come home, and we were going to be able to move in together....i had something to look forward to...

We are still together...its going on 6 years....

Im with the same guy since i was 15 years old...LOL....and by him moving away, it made our relationship more stronger...

Hang in there sweety....if its meant to be, then its meant to be.

Answer 10

It's difficult to maintain a long distance relationship,but do not give up on it. If you both truly love each other,no matter how faraway you both are from each other,everything will still be the same.