My girlfriend told me not to be on myspace because she said she is afraid that I will cheat on her. She said it as if she was demanding… so I told her that nobody puts restrictions or limitations on me and I hung up the phone. I was never going to call her back. I was really angry. I thought she was too as she send me a text message to delete her phone from memory. About twenty minutes later she calls back and she rephrased it—I would like you not to be on myspace. I said I would think about that when I went to myspace. What do you think? Should I replace her with someone else? Or is she showing me she love me as she is calling me back because if she puts restrictions or limitations on me again I will officially end the phone and never call her back.
2007-02-05 20:36:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes she definately cares for you as you say above . She's just going about it the wrong way. She cares for you and doesn't want to lose you to another woman. and though she may think your not going to stray she knows alot of women out there don't play fair and she is probably worryed you will get sucked in. But this way is not going to work. No one can live like that first its don't do this then it will be you can't go with the boys out and this will lead to you feeling confined and being bossed around.
If you care for this girl. You need to let her know that she can trust you ( only say that if you really can be trusted ) and let her know that you can't stay in a relationship that keeps you on a short leash. and that she has to be more sure of her self and this relationship between you to work. You do care for her and wouldn't do anything to harm the relationship but she needs to give you space and breathing room and if she can't do that. Then you will have problems she will be very possessive and very insecure and she will feel threatened and will watch your moves and you will feel like your under a microscope and can't breath.
So you need to really explain to her that this is not exceptable but also reinforce that she is the only one. I think if women know there guys are good they won't worry so much. Its the things they find out that gets them worrying then wondering how much is really truth or fiction coming from your mouth. and listen if your a player then let her know in your own way that you might not be always loyal or honest but that if she wants to be with you , you will tr;y your best to make things work.. That way she'll know from the get go that you won't be what she thought but at least she will know and not continue hounding you.
You won't be happy if you go back and say nothing you have to nip this in the butt right away and let her know this is not your style or she will get worse.
2007-02-05 21:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...she sounds like she has trust issues...did u ask her why she does not trust you? .. have u ever hurt her in the past? (this could justify her demand)......it sounds a little crazy to me as to why she is doing this.....maybe she is overly jelous and can't control her emotions, and she wants to keep you to herself only...obviously she cares about you alot to call back after a hang up...I'd be very pissed if someone hangs up on my face...so she cares......
I don't think this is a very big deal to let go of a relationship...I think you should calm down, and sit and talk to her without anger, and come to a conclusion....
You definately need to hear an explanation from her as to why she is acting this way, and why she is having trust issues..cause if you make her feel like she is number one and you have been faithfull to her in the past, and treat her nice and love her, then I don't think any girl would get mad over "myspace"..
anyways, Anger is not going to solve the problem instead have a nice conversation and figure things out...
and it also depends on how bad you want this relationship to work....if your willing to replace her over "myspace" then maybe you don't like her that much, and ofcourse the same goes to her...
Whatever ur decision is....Goodluck :)
2007-02-05 20:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by prettybella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both did the right thing.
You, for holding your ground and not letting a gal control you.
Her for seeing what she did wrong and trying to re-do it a better way.
That shows you are both thinking individuals.
Red flag 1: This may be a sign that she is insecure/has trust issues and may try to control or manipulate you in the future.
Red flag 2: You held your ground but I could see you being so stubborn that YOU actually become the manipualtive, controlling one.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you both.
2007-02-05 20:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has a right to tell u what to do. she sounds like the jealous type to me. (sorry if thats too forward)
You don't need someone in ur life telling u what u can n cant do. espaecially if that person claims they love u then they would trust u n "have a bitta faith" that u wont do the wrong thing.
Tho she is trying... by calling u back n asking u instead of telling you, that's definately a good sign!
2007-02-05 21:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girfriend can't trust you then at this point I would just move on. It sounds like she has some self esteem issues herself. There are plenty more women out there who won't care you are on myspace. Best of luck!
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2016-09-28 11:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lost her temper over a petty issue.
You made it clear that she wasn't all that important to you.
She's sorry about what she did and knows she was wrong -- but is she going to be petty in the future?
Are you ever going to commit yourself to her 100%?
These are the questions, but only the two of you can answer them.
2007-02-05 20:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask if you should replace her with someone else and then ask if she's showing you love.
Clearly, she's too insecure and you you're willing to toss her aside too easily. The relationship is doomed.
2007-02-05 20:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is a looney chick with trust issues.
2007-02-05 20:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues... if she can't trust you then this kind of behavior will never end.
2007-02-05 20:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋