People giving birth to bastards...if they claim they're not ready to get married then WHAT in the blue blazes makes them think they're ready to have kids?
2007-02-05 20:25:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Just because someone doesn't get married does not mean they aren't ready to have kids.
Not everyone wants to get married. Marriage isn't everything, it is only a piece of paper and a ring. People can make a commitment to each other without needing to get that stupid piece of paper!!!!
How many people get married and then divorced? How many people are stuck in unhappy or abusive marriages as they think it is wrong to get divorced?
Getting married doesn't mean that someone is ready to have a baby either. How many people are on Yahoo Answers, that are married and afraid they are pregnant and they aren't ready?
I've been with my boyfriend for 8 nearly 9 years we have two children and plan on more. He has asked me to marry him many times and I said NO every single time. I don't like the idea of marriage it isn't for me. I don't think that you need to get married to have kids or to be in a happy, fulfilling and monogamous relationship. We have done fine and are happy with our lives. We love each other deeply and we know it, we don't need a piece of paper saying we do.
Because we aren't married doesn't make us bad parents, nor does being married make someone a good parent.
Marriage really has nothing to do with being ready to have kids.
My kids have two loving caring parents, that love them as well as each other. So whats the problem. We probably have a better relationship than those that are married. All the marriages that I have seen have come about from pressure from the Church and they all ended up in the s**t heap.
I dont want that. I am quite happy for my relationship to stay the way it is.
And what in the blue blazes makes you Lord and master to judge everyone?
EDITED TO ADD: Please, just because a child's parents are'nt married does not mean they will be brought up with no morals!!! What about the married couples that cheat on each other, what effect does that have on their kids espeacilly if the other partner doesnt stand up for themselves just because they want to remain married. What effect does it have on a child to live in a house full of problems, stress, arguments, abuse just because people think its better to be married?
And children of unwed couples do know their relatives.
2007-02-05 21:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I will get married for a long time, if at all, but I most definately want some children around 29 or 30. My boyfriend isn't much into the marriage thing and said that he would have the wedding just for me. We already live together. In all honesty, the only difference between us being married now is a piece of paper.
Just because you are not married doesn't mean you shouldn't have kids. What about all of the divorces these day? Isn't it almost up to 60%? Whats the point in all of these people geting married to have kids and then getting divorces right afterwards?
2007-02-05 22:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with the divorce rates, who would blame them? Commiting your life to someone who may or may not honor their commitment to you, who things might not work out with, AND THEN having to fight for custody of the child on top of the breakup... Does seem a little pointless at times, especially not knowing for real if the other person really has the same values as you. (i'm currently 8 months pregnant, separated, HE cheated, HE isn't sure if he's "mature enough" to have a family, he "loves HIS KIDS" but doesn't even come to visit, and isn't sure how he feels about ME). A child on the other hand, will "always be your baby", you can teach him or her to have the same morals and values that you believe in, and can't ever betray your trust the same ways. Although there will still be problems, you can imagine that they'll turn out just fine and always love you because you're the parent and will always love them. I'm not saying I wouldn't rather work things out with him, I do feel that two people can raise a child better together, loving and supporting each other (I'm just waiting on him to decide if he wants to...) but i can also say i understand where other people who don't want the marriage are coming from!
2007-02-05 20:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well some people have life mixed up sometimes. Things are completely different from the way the used to be back before we were born. So, some people dont even want to think about walking down the aisle, but theyd have no problem having a baby. I can honestly see how they would think that having a baby and not getting married would be easier though.
2007-02-05 20:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by jayfreeze18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you need your mom to sign the papers then no way are you ready. i am guessing you are underage. if that is the case then i would say to focus on college, when the both of you have graduated and you each know more about yourselves and what you want in life ( besides just to be married) then think about getting married. you don't have to be married to love him and to continue to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship right?
2016-05-23 22:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
married isn't till death do us part be honest so they think why waste my money on a wedding .that's what kids are being bought up knowing no better.I been married 24 years and i hope my children have good morels and get married and then have children later on .but we live in a different era where nothing matters no more families don't know who there uncles aunties and gran parents are .don't blame the kids i say blame the government
2007-02-05 20:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hormones!
2007-02-05 22:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen! They don't know what's coming until afterwards. They're crazy wanting to do it alone! Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should do it.
2007-02-05 20:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋