I am trying to move on from an ex that doesn't want a relationship right now because of certain reasons i.e his frame of mind (not wanting a proper relationship). We were like BEST FRIENDS aswell as lovers. We would talk about anything under the sun, we were both mentally stimulating and enjoyed everyday of each others company! I am trying to move on but he still wants to stay close friends for now. But I can't be his friend while I feel so hurt by the fact that he has messed me about so much. I need to detach myself from this situation. My chest hurts with pain, I can't start dating anyone else, I keep crying in the toilet at work because I can't hold the tears back. The thing is that when a few months have passed I KNOW he is going to want start something with me as then he will be in that frame of mind & I won't want to be with him because of the principal! & he just can't understand why we can't be friends and see what happens in the future. But I just feel that I should decline?
2007-02-05 20:20:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a classic situation.
He is bang.ing someone else for now.
He just wants to keep you on the sidelines for him when he decides he wants to bang you again.
You are very right to want to separate yourself from him and not be his friend.
Guys do this all the time, and many of we women fall for it.
Don't be his doormat. Try to get it together and just forget about him. No friendship with him- no romance again with him.
Move on.
And don't just dive in bed with people. If you were more careful about giving your body to people, this probably never would have happened to you.
If you hadn't had sex with this current guy he would've:
1. Decided you weren't easy enough and gone to find another girl to bang. OR
2. Given you respect and treated you as something more special.
Good luck, and I hope you feel better.
2007-02-05 20:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Avsky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can empathize with you. i am in a similar situation at the moment. what you have to realize is that you put yourself first and take care of your self mentally. you need the space because it hurts too much, and he should understand that and give you time and space to try to get yourself together and heal and even possibly move on. also i applaud him for being honest with you about him not being ready but at the same time you have to take control of your emotions and choose how to deal with this situation. Stand firm, take the time you need away from him to heal and if he is still there when you come back, then he is a true friend, and if he is not, trust me there is better out there for you. i hope things work out the way you want to. and am sorry that you are hurting at the moment, but remember it wont be forever. goodluck.
2007-02-06 04:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by braille 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can be like that sometimes...It is very unfortunate when your trying to move on, and can't because some lame brain can't seem to get the hint. My advise is to put your foot down, and say look I have had it. You are wacked out, and need to press on somewhere else without me. Then it seems to me you would also benefit from talking to someone I would go see a professional. Somebody to help you with you, and give you that confidence to stay firm. It sucks he has to be that way I really feel for you. Why can't people just let go, and move on? Why do they have to keep bringing people down like that? Mind boggling!!!
2007-02-06 04:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by foxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no point hanging on to a situation you don't want to be in. Get rid of the situation and the past and move on. Life is full of people, pleasures and opportunities. Don't do what you don't like to do mentally, it will hurt you later.
2007-02-06 04:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kehgohar R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start the process of getting over him and accept its over. When you are over him, start dating other people. If he decides he's ready for a relationship, let him come to you. If you happen to be single still and you're wanting to give it a try, maybe it was meant to be. But if you're involved with someone better or you just don't have feelings for him anymore, tell him he blew it!
2007-02-06 04:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you to do dont do something you will regret later
2007-02-06 04:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋