if my life is a big zero in love, job, health and everything else, then i should just kill myself,,, right????

Answer 1

No no no no no no no no no!!!!!!!!!!!! That is the worst mistake you could ever make. Seriously...that's a really selfish thing to do. Make sure you think about this!!! If someone you knew were to read this question, they could easily pick up their phone and call someone to come over to your house and have them come try to help you. If you really feel like this is a serious thing you're thinking about, then maybe someone should call help for you. I found the rest of this answer at www.myspace.com/isupport. Yes, it's a gay support site, but the sucide part is a good read.

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If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.

I don’t know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only know that for the moment, you’re reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.

I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won’t argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.

Well, you’re still reading, and that’s very good. I’d like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you’re at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let’s hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.



Start by considering this statement:

“Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain.”

That’s all it’s about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.


Don’t accept it if someone tells you, “that’s not enough to be suicidal about.” There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

Now I want to tell you five things to think about.

1 You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.

2 Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.

3 People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.

4 Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen
But don’t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.

5 Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.


Well, it’s been a few minutes and you’re still with me. I’m really glad.

Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping resources than you have pain. So let’s give you another coping resource, or two, or ten...! until they outnumber your sources of pain.


Now, while this page may have given you some small relief, the best coping resource we can give you is another human being to talk with. If you find someone who wants to listen, and tell them how you are feeling and how you got to this point, you will have increased your coping resources by one. Hopefully the first person you choose won’t be the last. There are a lot of people out there who really want to hear from you. It’s time to start looking around for one of them.

Now: I’d like you to call someone.

Answer 2

No you should not be dead, or kill yourself, if you are thinking that way then i need to say to you that you need to pick up that phone right now and call the crisis line in your area, and seek help, casue if that is the way you are thinking then you need help and you need it right now. So Please pick up the phone and call and get help. As for being a big zero, well you are not that neither, it sounds to me that you have low self esteem, and that you need to have some better luck in love, jobs, health, and anything, that is positive, and i hope that you have noticed i put positive there. So we are don't have the best of luck in everything, but if you hold on you will sooner then you think, but you really need some help with that self esteem that alone will make you feel the way you are, an you proably will be having a bad time in you life in the areas that you have put there, but it does not have to last, and you can do something about it. I would really suggest that you start with that self esteem of yourself, cause with low self esteem you are going to feel depressed, stressed, like a loser, which you are not. You need to like yourself , then love yourself, then you will have good self esteem. AND PLEASE DO NOT KILL YOUR SELF, CAUSE U HAVE A LIFE WORTH LIVING, IF YOU KNOW IT NOW OR NOT. SO CALL THE CRISIS LINE OR ER, OR THE POLICE AND GET SOME HELP, in the morning call a therapist and tell them how you are feeling about your life and get in there and deal with your problems,and work on that self esteem.

Answer 3

Kim, of course not. Change your life, because nobody else will for you. Don't like your job, find a new one. Not healthy, then start exercising. No love life or friends, join an organization like the Jaycees or another community group or go to church. Sh!t or get off the toilet my friend....killing yourself is never an option, but changing your own life is. I have done it at my darkest time and that is because someone told me everything above. Make the changes necessary, even if it takes a while.

Answer 4

We all came to the world empty handed. We all start with zero. So, a big zero for everything in life is just back to the beginning, it's there a need to die? Certainly no. I always believe, we come with nothing, and left empty handed, so why get so emotional over what you have now.

Answer 5

No you should not kill yourself . You may not have a good love life, a good job or health right now but things will change and if you kill your self you will never get the chance to have all those thing later in life. So just hang in there. they will change and killing your self wont make these things happen.

Answer 6

No that's only finial forever no turning back, solution to a temporary problem. It hurts the people that you leave behind. You never complete the work God gave you and only you to do. We all suffer pain, disappointment, and heartaches, but we get through it. You can go to the Intercessors prayer room for 24/7 prayer if you choose. If you are seriously considering killing yourself, and you have a plan, call 911 and get some help right away. Gods Love and Peace to you.

Answer 7

Suicide= a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Of course you shouldn't. And I don't think you really needed us to tell you that.
Look in the phone book under mental health. I can almost guarantee there is a service for it nearby. Many places charge on a sliding scale, or can help you get signed up for services that will pay for your therapy. At the least, they will be able to tell you where to go to get assistance.

Answer 8

you are nothing? or is it because you think youre nothing? Lets say that you are nothing...Then why dont you pick your head up and "BECOME" something? Thats what I did....my goal in life is to study, to learn trades, to create business models and plans, to invent, etc etc....and now what? im 29....it took 16 years in the making.....and I have 10 different trades....and im on my 11th one...and got another 10-15 to go....my goal is to be able to get a job whenever I want, doing whatever I want, and ANYWHERE I WANT. This pertains to the whole world....What is your goal? After you figure it out......get up and go at it.........dont stop and nothing around you will stop....keep going and dont look at everybody else..just go on your own flow......when you run out of juice.....take a look...and you will find that you are the most worthy person ever....and most deserving of a life, since you created your own life.....

Answer 9

Sweety, NOOOOOO. Thats never the answer and i think you sould really reach out to your family or friends or doctor and tell them how your feelings, you can get through this and things will get better, dont give up, even if your life is crap right now it doesnt mean it will be forever, reach out for help, your in a very vulnerable position and you need some help and support. ((((((hugs))))))) i hope things get better for you soon.

Answer 10

No, you should not. You should work on the reasons why you think your life is so horrible. Go to school, see a doctor, try to get some assistance. All the resources are out there for you, believe it or not, all you have to do is look very, very hard.

Answer 11

hullo
does not that sounds as depression to you ?there is no big zero in life,but if you insist on that then you may be suffering from nihilistic delusions or so !which means a major depression with psychotic symptoms.
go and find a psychiatrist to talk to.


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