i love my boyfriend very much. thing is he goes off in moods with the smallest things like last night we were texting and at 11 pm i said i'm going to bed now, he went off on one.so i rang him to ask him wots up and he shouted down the fone to me saying to just go to bed and put the fone down on me. it really upset me, coz no matter how much i try to please him it just never happens. i don't know what to do? i love him, and he did apologise but it's like the 3 rd time now this has happened. he's been hurt by women in the past, hes had a criminal past,and a bad childhood. is this anything to do with it? what shud i say to him when and if i see him again? plz help me.
2007-02-05 20:13:42 · 9 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh for the love of god dump this loser .... honestly, he sounds like a right pr1ck. You sound like a nice girl, he's an idiot. criminal past? sounds like a real catch, get out before he starts hitting you and dragging you down to his miserable level - go and find happiness elsewhere, you'll thank me for this one day, or at least one day wake up and realise you should have taken my advice and left this sad case
2007-02-05 20:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being hurt by women in the past and having a bad childhood etc are not excuses for being so off with you and treating you that way. It sounds like he has a lot of anger built up inside that he needs to deal with. I would be very wary of this person as he sounds very angry. A total over reaction to you wanting to go to bed. Doesn't sound too good to me. Only you know how you feel about this person but do you really want to be treated this way and put up with the worry and being scared of his temper? If the answer is no then you need to consider moving on. Be happy in a relationship not miserable and scared. That's not healthy.
2007-02-06 04:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he does have emotional problems, and yes it is because of his past. From what you've described it seems like he hasn't gotten over these issues and I can tell you from experience (I was in your boyfriend's shoes not yours) he needs help. He will have nothing to offer you but heartache because the truth is, hurting people hurt others. I'd suggest having an honest conversation with him. Talk about expectations you have for this relationship and what you need from your man. Maybe he'll realize that he has issues he needs to address. Don't put your hopes too high though, you'll never change him, he's the only one that can make that decision. It looks like he's taking his past issues out on you and as long as this continues to be the case there is no future in this relationship. Don't be afraid to move on if he doesn't own up to the fact that his past hurts are affecting how he treats you. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. You're not doing him any favors if you help to perpetuate his current attitude towards you. It's often hard to do what's good for someone as oppose to what will temporarily make them feel good. Be a friend if you can to this guy but don't let him suck you in his troubled world. I wish you all the luck!
2007-02-06 04:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♫Silvi♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has a short temper so you gotta either tell him to get it sorted if he wants to be with you or put up with it. Sorry but that's the long and short of it, if he wants to be with you he could go to anger management counselling. It probably does have something to do with the past but you can't do much about that. If his child hood was bad i suggest you steer clear of talking about it until he has had counselling or brings up the subject himself just in case you upset him - it could really send him off on one
2007-02-06 04:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amy, you sound so sweet and devotefull, but you have to let this guy go and wait for mr perfect to walk in to your life. Ok the fact that he's been hurt in the past and the dodgey record might just show you the first warning signs but are you able to sit there and say that in the future he wont go from moody to violent. Of course not I hear you say but ask yourself this,,,,,,,,,,,,,are you being honest with yourself now. Think about it please. I'm asking you because I was just the same before I got sent down for attacking my ex.
2007-02-06 04:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by "THE WISE ONE" 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, he might have wanted to keep talking with you, and then you wanted him to suddenly stop talking, didn't help your position. Although, it sounds like he's already carrying a track record, he might also be unstable....if he's seeking treatment for any mental conditions, or is afraid of being hurt again, I'd ask you both to seek a pastor to discuss his anger issues.
2007-02-06 04:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by steveraven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that he's insecure and thats why he goes off on one try to reasure him that you love him and to not be nasty to you just because you wanted to go to bed. people like you're boyfriend need a lot of convince'in that you're not doing anything behind thier back if you love him a lot then stay with him but don't be a doormat to him
2007-02-06 04:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's got an anger problem and possibly maturity issues.
2007-02-06 04:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i had the same problem with my man but everything is up to you. until you realise that you are worth more than you know, that if he wants to be with you he should laern to respect you.. respect even in the way he talks to you. you sound like you realli love your man but you gotta stand yo ground. you aint his baby mama, its about time he knows that its either you or his mood swings.
2007-02-06 04:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by gorgerous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋