I wanted to wait until they all got to know him before I told them but he thinks that because Ive waited they will not like him. Did I wait too long? Should I even tell them if it can be avoided?
2007-02-05 20:02:57 · 11 answers · asked by Sigi Rocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you tell your family, they will want to know why he was in prison...so you'll have to be prepared to explain that. I don't think it matters to much that you waited to tell your family, although I think it is in your *favor* that you waited, because it gave the family a chance to get to know him without the prison part....however, prison is still prison so they will probably still be upset or disapproving of it no matter what you do.
If you do decide to tell your family, it is probably best to think about what you are going to say and just be honest about the whole thing. Try to be open so they don't have to make up assumptions about things. Giving them the whole picture is probably the best way to go.
2007-02-05 20:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been together? assess your family if they are ready for that kind of news. i think you did the right think waiting for them to get to know him first and like him before telling them the news, ill probably do the same. but i understand your boyfriend too, he must be anxious that he wants to know as earliest as possible if he's okay with your parents just the way he is with that background because if you've been together long and your parents would reject him then he would definitely be devastated. however, it's you who knows your parents and your family, if they will reject him or not and you'll know when is the perfect time to tell them. :-) i know it's hard being in the middle of the whole situation but i hope everything works out for both of you. ill pray that God will shed understanding to your family's hearts and minds and they will be open to the relationship and the your bf will be more confident about the relationship. :-)
2007-02-05 21:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been better if you had given us the reason for his being in prison. However, I assume it must not have been a very serious offence, or else you wouldn't have befriended him in the first place. Anyways, I suggest you do not take the initiative to inform your parents yourself. If, during the course of their getting to know him, such a topic is opened, you may just mention it to them matter-of-factly. Also, do not hide it if they come to know about it from other sources. If they appear upset about not being informed earlier, you can always tell them that they never questioned you/him about his past, and you didn't think it was all that important, and specially because that fact did not affect you. Hope, it all turns out well for you both. Good luck!
2007-02-05 20:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by mustibabu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u think your family will react negatively to this information. U know your family and should decide this. U have all along known this information, and u don't seem to mind, better avoid if u feel your family will react negatively and maybe try to break the relationship. Everyone of us have some skeletons in the cupboard, which we have kept shut. If u have full confidence, trust and love on your bf, then it is better to avoid.
2007-02-05 21:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd keep it a secret if it could be avoided. It's likely they'll have a different perception of him. But it really depends on how open minded your family is. If they are, then just tell them. If not, don't.
2007-02-05 20:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by drainelenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you get very serious then you will have to tell them. if he goes to get a job and has problems because most places do criminal background checks, when you cant get a loan, or an appartment for the same reason, your parents will want to know why. its better to tell them now asap.
2007-02-05 20:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding something from someone always risks them finding out that you hid it, and then them resenting you and in this case him.
Yes, the sooner you come clean with them, the less this impact will have.
2007-02-05 20:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same position. tell them NOW!! if he is good to you then there shouldn't be a problem. they should want you with a guy who is good to you and been to prison than a guy who will beat your @$$ and not been to prison.
2007-02-05 20:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by skrubz69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll find out soon enough. Someone that knows this will eventually spill the beans.
2007-02-05 20:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now there's a person your parents will be proud of. Good choice !!!
2007-02-05 23:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋