I feel really shy and embarrassed around the male population. I can barely look them in the eye, so I just look at my knees instead. I'm 17, and despite having about 7 chances to date I've basically been single my whole life, have never dated and have never been kissed. I wish I had a boyfriend, but I don't see it ever happening. I can see myself as a crazy old lady with 72 cats before I ever get with someone. I'm always making lots of mistakes and embarrassing myself. From my last highschool where I left because of bullying, I got the gist that I was fat and ugly, and that nothing I did could ever be forgiven because I can't pull of being cute. I also have a bit of a speech problem when I'm nervous, that makes people think I'm an idiot, when in reality, I have an above average IQ. I don't really have any street cred as such, and am always saying the silliest things.
Would people get a vibe about how I feel around them? What should I do?
2007-02-05 19:51:23 · 7 answers · asked by Steph :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Earl you are an ignorant ****, who has no right to leave answers like that. You obviously have no idea what I meant by "Street smarts"or "Street Cred" which is a commonly used desciption of someones characteristic where I live. Just because you'll probably end up a 103 year old virgin doesnt mean you can pick on me. Get a life you loser!
2007-02-05 20:04:02 · update #1
Heres how someone described it which is close to what I meant by street smart:
Learn to use your hands,and especially most of your brain.It pays to be street smart.However i'd have to say one has to have experience.just get out there and do stuff.
Oh and just so you know, I don't consider myself ugly or stupid, its just something that was said when I was getting bullied. I'm a lot better looking now. But still overweight...
2007-02-05 20:08:56 · update #2
One thing that always works is you've gotta make like you belong there! Get the feeling that nobody belongs in the situation any more than you do. Lift your chin up a little and give yourself a boost of confidence. A lot of the time, guys prefer it when it is the girl who shows interest, and the worst that could happen is you will get rejected-but mark my word, you will not get rejected by everyone! Loosen up a bit and give yourself the impression that you don't care what other people think of you, that way you will get ahead! Good luck!
2007-02-05 19:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Motti _Shish 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be so cruel! I know I was picked on for being fat and ugly. Honestly I just didn't know how to dress for my size or apply make-up. Those cute people who can pull of anything in high school will eventually get old and ugly, oh and fat too. I know it doesn't seem like that but it will happen.
As far as your looks you may want to go for a make over at a local department store. I would recommend wearing the make up for the day or evening to be sure you are not allergic and you like the colors. If so go back and buy them, if you cant afford to buy the products buy what looks as close to it as possible at Wal-Mart or drug store. Pay close attention to how they apply it. When you look good you will have more confidence and show it.
Since you have a speech problem when you get nervous you might want to see a speech therapist to help you. I hope I have given you something you can use. Remember to be yourself.
Remember you are special, everyone is in there own unique way! You already said you have an above average IQ!
2007-02-05 20:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by simpsonwd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, no hope.... or is there?
I'm not gunna give you any of that psycho mumbo jumbo, what I will tell you is this, you've got the one thing every male wants, a 17 year old body. Now you can do with it what you want, but here's a fact, any girl can tone her body, that's right, make working out your thing, make it fun.Once you've got the body, the only thing you'll have to say is "come and get it cowboy"!
It's that simple, why? because boys your age are wankers, I'm not being mean just stating a fact, if you got your heart set on one of these critters, then exploit their weakness.
2007-02-05 20:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh honey im sorry to hear that. You will probably be a late bloomer and thats okay. I was one too. I was not allowed to date so i was way behind . I too never kissed anyone or dated anyone till i was in college. So during my highschool years i got more into sports as I was always athletic . And when I did meet my boyfriend at the time he was very gentle patient and understanding about me not knowing anything. He didnt' turn out nice in the end but thats another story. So what im trying to say is that you will find someone it might not be right away. but in time you will. another short story i knew a girl in school and she too always looked down at her feet to men or women she was so shy she could never look up she would talk to you of course but never raise her head many people teased her at school. But I didn't care. she was a nice girl and I knew she was shy. And she's now married and has kids and she met a man that thought her shyness was cute and he acutally helped her come out a bit. so you too will come out in your way when your ready and you will find a man who is compassionate and understanding towards your ways. Don't worry trust me this will change later for you. I too was shy. I didnt' look down but i knew I was way behind the 8 ball and so i hesitated more too. Just keep doing your thing and one day he'll come along.
2007-02-05 22:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well alot of girls go through the things that your feeling its absolutely natural when your ready to date guys you won't be so shy around them. Some women are meant to be alone and being alone is not so bad. Some people need to be thrown in to social situations, (since your 17 and graduating high school soon)Like go to a college where you live in a dorm far away from parents. It will be a great time and you will date some guys if you want.
2007-02-05 19:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, think about the good things about you...you have far more +tive points than the negative ones for sure, i know that. you're a good person. if you can only express your feeling in that way, it will make all the difference.
go to a beauty parlour and ask them to help you out in the looks department. go to a good parlour. they will do a good job since they're professionals.
just talk about simple things with guys. askin q's is their job...you just have to answer them. keep it simple, be calm and composed and dont appear to be nervous...
2007-02-05 20:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by drno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with you, you will most likely be better off them most of your friends. they will be all scared and bitter, and you can learn a lot from their mistakes.
2007-02-05 20:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋