her younger brother keep pulling her bra ,making fun of her new body calls her nasty names or yesterday when I was not around he and his friend played punch and pull the "jelly" with poor girl... they go to same school... I'm afraid he embarrasses her there... we talked to him but hubby told him if he ever touches his sister he'll take off his belt and dicipline him...you think it might work?
he is younger and keep pulling her bra ,making fun of her new body calls her nasty names or yesterday when I was not around he and his friend played punch and pull the "jelly" with poor girl... they go to same school... I'm afraid he embarrasses her there... we talked to him but hubby told him if he ever touches his sister he'll take off his belt and dicipline him...now she doesnt wear at all..we tried to talk but useless
2007-02-05 19:41:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh, I'd definitely beat him to a pulp. Don't even bother trying to talk to him. Your poor daughter to have to put up with a lesbian mother and all the other problems you've posed in the Answers section. The sooner they take your kids away from you the better!
2007-02-05 19:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Your son certainly needs discipline on this one. Giving him the belt will not help the situation at all although I can sure undedrstand the frustration you are going through as parents and your daughter must be very upset about this whole matter. What you need to do is as a family sit down together at the table and advise your son you are going to start removing his priveliges if he continues with this unacceptable behaviour. Advise he will not be told again and the first time he disobeys you will start action. Prior to the meeting write a list of all the things he has or is allowed to do that he really values and read them out to him. He will protest immediately believe me. Ask your daughter to tell her brother at the table how it makes her feel when he and his friend are embarassing her. Advise your son that if he disobeys the order twice you will have no choice but to report the problem to his school principal. The problem occurs at school and he/she has every right to know about what is going on and they will then deal with it in the manner they feel fit. If your son brings that friend home tell your son he will be banned from bringing him home until this whole thing is resolved. Your son needs to then make a formal apology to his sister. Tell him that as a family you all love him and want him to grow into a mature and sensible young man. Acknowledge the good things he does do and say you know he doesnt have to resort to bullying his own sister, Im sure he wouldnt like it if he was the one being bullied. Tell him how psychologically damaging it is to be bullied and can stay with someone for the rest of their life which I am sure he wouldnt want to happen to his sister nor himself. Good luck I am a Mum in Australia. I was also bullied as a child and it is still affecting me today, I am 53 years old.
2007-02-05 20:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it might work if your hubby took his belt and showed your son a few tings about being nice to his sister.
Regardless of his age having his friends play punch and pull the 'jelly' from his sister is a form of abuse and is WRONG.
If he and she had been older like in high school if would have been a form of sexual assault.
If he will do this now what will he do later. ?
Try and tell you daughter that most of the time no one can tell she has a bra on.
And the next time her little brother tries to touch her, tell her to knock him down and give him a wedgie, HARD..
2007-02-05 20:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got a few issues here. Depending on how big her bossom becomes, she may never "need" a bra. But if they get big enough then there is a physical need for support. I think the bigger issue is that she needs to do things for the right reasons, not because other people pressure her. Sound like her brother needs to learn how to resepect people and woman as well. I think if you avoid the issue by letting her go without the bra you're doing both children a dis-service.
2007-02-05 19:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by haxemon 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if she needs the support now, but she will later on! Preventing sagging is better than getting a "lift" sugically when she is older... Plus as they get bigger, she'll be teased or thought of as "easy" because she lets them go free and those young teen boys will watch her and want to take advantage of the girl that lets "her puppies bounce all over". That's what i've seen in high school at least.
2007-02-05 20:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were my daughter i would tell her that there are only a few years before she has kids and how her chest is developing now is the best they are ever going to look she should be proud of her body and not to let any person besides a doctor comment on her development and health. I would only take the bullying further if she feels it needs to if she doesn't i wouldn't make a fuss of it. i would make my son wash, dry ,fold and put away all of my daughters bras so he can get used to the idea and not be so afraid of them
2007-02-05 22:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make this little snot wear a bra so his sister can get her own back. I would send him to school with it on and escort him right to the classrooom and announce why he is wearing it I would not come off until he apolgized and started to show more respect for his sister.
Perhaps next time he pulls her bra she takes a firm hold of his crown jewels and squeezes them until his eyes water.
Now to answer the rest of your question:
In the early stages of development bra wearing is not nescessary. No bra will tend to strengthen the ligaments and breast unsupported in early teens remain firm and upright for longer before they need the support of a bra
Perhaps get her a soft line halter bra. Less obvious too.
2007-02-05 22:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a common thing among young people but just encourage her and tell her that putting on a bra keeps her breasts in shape and in position.
2007-02-05 19:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Moses 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to let the twit bother her. (say it like that so she knows you know her brother is being a twit) She needs to wear it unless she wants her boobs to hang down around her waist when she is older. Yes, not wearing it now can have an effect on her later. Is she going to let her little brother dictate what she does? Get her to want to wear it.
2007-02-06 01:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is bad!
Female Breast tend to go down if female didn't wear any bra.
Her younger brother should be taught that bra is not a toy. He might get problem if playing with bra became his habit.
2007-02-05 19:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
have her wear a sports bra they are harder to grab and pull and you also have to teach your son how rude it is to do that to his sister. he has to be seeing someone do this for him to do it himself. and if she is developed enough there is a dress code in a lot of schools for developed girls to wear bra's if this goes on in school its harassment and should be notified to the Principal even at home its harassment from her own brother.
2007-02-05 20:33:12 · answer #11 · answered by rosemommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋