I have 4 children . 2 are toddlers, I work an overnight shift because thepay is higher. I have to sleep when my husbandgets home from his job. I cant keep up on the housework. I clean one mess and my girls are making a bigger mess in anouther room. I come home every morning and it seems to get worse. I use Time outs, my girls are very small so they dont quite understand what it means. my older 2 only live with me 2 weeks out of the month and my ex the outher 2. I dont think they like comming here much because their sisters get into so much, What can i do?
2007-02-05 19:12:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If i diddnt work the we would have no home to live in.
2007-02-05 19:29:19 · update #1
First you are way too tired. Second you are very stressed. Third your house is not as clean as you would like it to be. Time outs don't work on toddlers they have no concept of right and wrong. What you must do to preserve your sanity is confine them to one room for play. That way their mess will only be in one room and the rest of the house will stay neat. Make sure they have regular nap times and that you take a nap at the same time. You deserve the rest. What does your husband do in the evening? Does he cook the evening meal? Does he clean the kitchen after dinner? Is he giving the children their bath? In other words is he helping with the cleaning and child care? If not you need to talk to him and tell him you need some help. Maybe you should take the pay cut that comes with working days and put your children in day care. That way you could at least get some sleep and that would reduce your stress.
2007-02-05 22:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to leave your job to take care of your babies. You and your husband should do what it takes to meet that goal. Your babies need you home to take care of them.
Don't give your two girls time outs if they don't know what it means. They are toddlers, they make messes, they wonder around the house because they get bored. So, you as a mother need to find other things for them to do.
Do what you can in the meantime. Help your other 2 who visit on what to expect from 2 toddlers. Maybe they can help them with things to do.
2007-02-06 03:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need a break, this sounds like chaos!! You cannot change the fact that you have a large family but revamp your schedule....and by the way, the job you have is a killer...you never get a good sleep, that adds to the stress...Time out for you girl!
2007-02-06 03:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by CC Top 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send the girls to day care while you clean the house and get some sleep. If you can afford this i think this would be a big help.
2007-02-06 03:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need help!
Is there money to hire someone? Is there family that can help?
Have you gone through how much babysitting is, or how much sleep you are not getting and your pay? Is it worth it....
You sounds stressed out and way tired. I sure hope you find relief soon....
2007-02-06 03:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
CAN YOU DO WITH LESSER MONEY
IS MONEY U R GETTING BETTER THAN UR HEALTH
think about it discuss it with ur hubby dear
and u can also find another job with lesser time
TEACHING JOB IS PERFECT 4 PRETTY WOMENS LIKE U
else u ll end up c rushed mentally n physically one day
2007-02-06 03:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by xxsanxx 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just deal with it and remember when you were a child.....and how time goes by and now you're not...they will be grown before you know it.
2007-02-06 03:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol you seem to find the time to go on yahoo answers. lets get your a== and do some shoveling.
2007-02-06 03:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋