How true is this? I don't understand why people say this. I'm a guy, and if I stop looking does that mean a girl will just come in to my life? Am I not supposed to be proactive and looking for someone. If looking makes you seem desperate, then how to stop looking desperate?
2007-02-05 18:37:49 · 13 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is true from my own experience
I usually end up getting a bf after i had decided im gona to stay single for a long time
And they crossed my paths so i didnt go and look for them the one i met a pub one night the most recent one was suppose to be my roommate when i went to look at the place i didnt went to look for a bf but i ended up with a new bf
2007-02-05 18:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U dont look for love i mean it true u keep going out with girls and meet new poeple hopeing that u find the real love with but still it not something u look for sometimes love is right infront of u and u don't see it like an old friend that u from ever u just feel that u have feelings u never had 2words her so if u look or no u'll find ur love soon or later just pray 2god 2give u some1 love u back .
2016-03-29 07:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tell me this all the time. I believe your intention is more powerful than the human activity of "looking" for someone. I think this saying comes from the idea if you're happy with your own company, than, you will attract like-minded people. But I think, like the film, "About a Boy" with Hugh Grant, you must make human steps and effort to connect with others. Especially in today's society, where everyone is so insular. I miss the carefree days of days gone by, when people were so much more laid back and fun and wanted to play and have fun!
Now everyone is too busy working to relax and if they do it costs lots of money and is very exclusive rather than inclusive.
Maybe we could start of Y & A Club??:}
ps...if you think you look desperate, so will others. (As a man thinketh, so is he).
2007-02-05 18:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question, I would also like to know. I have been waiting for love for a long time, and I'm still waiting.
With everything else in life I've learned that you have to go out and get it - nothing will fall into your lap. But it's true, you can't go out and look for love because than you are marked as desperate or cheap.
If you find the answer to this question, please let me know.
2007-02-05 18:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit of both, but the real valuable idea is not to worry when its not there for you. It probably will come when you are not expecting it, like a surprise. If you are not in it, you can't win it. So you also have to go out, you won't meet people sitting at home that is a scientific fact. You can increase the chances of finding someone.
2007-02-05 18:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally believe that if you aren't looking for someone, then you will meet someone when you least expect it. Try keeping yourself busy with a hobby or activities, this way you'll be too busy to think about having a girlfriend, and before you know it you'll meet a girl thats worth your time.
2007-02-05 18:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by vivi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of young, but people are ready for relationships at different times. Some of your friends are not there yet and if your girlfriend doesn't want to committ, then she's not ready and you should move on. Waiting is NOT an option, she may never be ready. It's definetly not wrong to look, it's just that your friends sound young and relationships are not on their agenda yet.
2007-02-05 18:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people mean is to not be hitting on every single girl you see, but to be friends and take things more leisurely. As a guy you'll still have to be the aggressive one.
Just be more chilled and friends with girls, and it's surprising how much more they'd want you. I know it's wierd, I don't get it either.
2007-02-05 18:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that statement has some truth to it. Love comes along when you least expect it. Sometimes when you are looking too hard all you find are the wrong girls. It doesn't mean don't keep your eye out but it will happen. Good luck to you.
2007-02-05 18:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That means don't go looking for her, but when you meet her you still have to make effort. Don't sit there and expect her to appear and bring you a pina colada. ;) When you meet the one you will know and then you will need to exert some effort, but until then you work on your life.
2007-02-05 18:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋