I FEEL LIKE MY 9YR IS PULLING AWAY FROM ME AND IT SCARES ME . I KNOW SHE IS GROWING UP BUT WHAT CAN I DO SO WE CAN REMAIN CLOSE AND OPEN. INSTEAD OF FIGHTING AND YELLING ALL THE TIME?
2007-02-05 18:29:48 · 7 answers · asked by sweetpea4everus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have actually educated myself in some of my 12 year old sons interests so that i can relate to him on a special level. I have a neopet lol. ok sounds a little immature but it helps keep me close to my son and we have more to talk about, that oppens doors for outher oppertunities for communication. Also when my 18 year ols was that agehim and I found something that we used to do togeather. we would go to target. pick out a small inexpencive peice of furnature, rent movies, and assemble it togeather. It gave us something to be proud of and best of all, we did it togeather.
2007-02-05 18:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend special time with her. Just you two. Play games with her. Spend time on the computer together doing the things she wants to do. (parental discretion of course) go shopping. Have heart to heart talks with her. Try to see her side of things. Write her little notes that tell her you love her or send her a surprise email. Teach her how to put on makeup even If it is only used around the house. Have her help you pick out your clothes for the next day. I also have a 9 yr old and these are some things I have done with her and they have brought us closer because we spend quality time together and she knows that I love her. P.S. To keep the yelling down-wisper when you talk to her so that she will pay attention to what you are saying. She will hate it at first but it does work.
2007-02-06 03:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by sasy_tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will not tolerate her yelling at you. End of story. Every time she yells at you, take something of hers and say you did not earn this. I gave it to you. For you to yell at me is unnacceptable. Your dad and I work and pay for everything you have. IF you can not respect us, then we dont need to provide you freely with things you did not earn. When you start acting better, we will give you the oppurtunity to EARN them back. Until then go to your room. The discussion is over. When she comes back and wants her stuff back. Tell her no, that if you had talked to your boss like that you would have been fired. Tell her each time she acts like that, she makes you become stricter. Sorry does not cut it. The only way she can earn her stuff back is chores. Sorry is mandatory but it is not going to get her stuff back. Until she appologizes you want even discuss the item.
Make it hard for her, and keep it up. After a couple of times she will learn
2007-02-06 03:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Johny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's an age thing. My son will turn 10 in a week.... and he has been more and more defiant, too... but never ever does he yell at me or argue, because I demand respect. Whining is okay to get our attention, but absolutely no yelling at mom or dad. Unless he talks loud and clear stating what is bothering him, he doesn't get my attention fully.
2007-02-06 03:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-I'm telling you at this point ,, your too late ,, she needs HELP- pay for it ,, do it ,, YOU let her get this far she is out of you hands, she knows she's got you beat , it will be hard to regain you ground now! It's time to be mom ,, not her buddy ,, !!Sorry I'm sure I will not get the best answer , the truth is hard to swallow !
2007-02-06 02:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get counseling, quick!
2007-02-06 13:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Professional counseling for your family - NOW!
2007-02-06 02:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋