How do I get my boyfriend to accept God?

Question

My boyfriend doesnt know God and says that he hates him and for all he knows there may not even be a God. Growning up, being a christian was very important and i was taught to marry a christian and i dont believe in pre-marital sex. My boyfriend respects the pre-martal sex part but he just thinks I'm crazy that I have to marry a christian. He doesnt understand how that can be important when it comes to marrying someone. How do I explain to him why it is important.. now that I think of it I dont even know why myself why it is important?

Answer 1

As a Christian guy, i'm not really sure. I would say, keep trying to show him the love of God that you know and love, but without forcing it down his throat. Also continue to pray, an I believe that if you are consistent in your prayers, God will be able to change your boyfriend. You might come to see he becomes more accepting of the idea of God and when he starts to see other prayers answered, i think it might end up being too much for him. He'll start to become curious and want what you have.

but basically, just tell him what you have been praying for, let him know you are praying for him, and live as Godly a life as you know how to.

hope that helps...

Answer 2

While there are infinite variations, your choices basically come down to two. Either you decide that your relationship is more important than your faith, and accept him for who he is; respect his faith (or lack thereof), and make sure he respects yours in turn. Or, if your faith is more important to you, realize you'll never be entirely happy with him and move on. Ultimately either is acceptable, but remember *you* are a Christian and should be both clear and compassionate in your communications.

I'm a little troubled that you don't seem to know why this matters to you; is it the principles of the faith, or the sense of identity? Examining your motivations and priorities may give you the answer you need. You said he's willing to wait until marriage for sex; maybe you have more values in common than you thought, just arrived at by different means.

Answer 3

Anything that is important to you will influence the relationship. Whether it is sports (watch Fever Pitch), dancing, church, or any other activity. A couple doesn't have to live in each other's pockets (and they shouldn't), but they need to be understanding and supportive of their partners interests.

You ended your question with "now that I think of it I don't even know myself why it is important". You need to answer that for your own self. You can change no one but yourself. THE MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do is decide why you are here on this planet. Are you accident? or do you have a God given purpose? Who is God? Are the 60 or so years you spend on earth more important then the eternity that will follow?

I would recommend reading "Disappointment with God" by Yancy.

Answer 4

Your bf is a human, that is sufficient, why christian ? If u feel like converting him than the best course of action for u, is to pray to god. God can give insight to your bf, like St. paul. Anyway, only thing u can do is pray, pray that your bf is enlightened, and u also need a lot of enlightenment to know that what u were taught was only fragmentary and a birds eye view, the total picture is evading u.

Answer 5

First of all, if you are a Christian and he is or might be a unbeliever you are with someone who is not equally yoked in your beliefs. What does the light have in common with the darkness? Now you are even becoming confused and aren't sure what you believe in or why. Maybe you should pray about it and ask God to show you your own heart and if it is in alignment with God's will.

Answer 6

Where you grow in life is dependent upon who you are following. All of us look up to someone, want to be just like _____. You can't grow together if you're following different leaders. You follow Jesus and your boyfriend is on a different track. You're choices are shaped by what you believe (as are his) and those are going to be very different if your belief systems are growing in different directions. He knows love because of what you've shown him. If he can recognize something special about you, tell him, it's not you, but God within you. If he doesn't find anything special about you--leave him now and save yourself the heart break!

Answer 7

When you try to force feed religion to somebody they almost always throw it up. That goes double in your case -- you admit you don't understand Christianity and you can't teach what you don't know. Nobody can.

The best thing you can do is try to live by your principles. People will notice. It'll mean more than anything you can possibly say. And it'll help you to grow up. Obviously you have a lot of growing up to do before you're ready to think about marriage.

Answer 8

This is not your job to do? Do not even think it should be your job! God does not need your help, if God does want to call him to Jesus Christ he will. You should not be seeking to change him, you supposedly love him for who he is not what you can make of him some day. If you want a Christain boy then find a Christian boy, but if you want a worldly boy then face the facts you love the world not a Christian boy

Answer 9

I understand you completely, and I also have the same beliefs about marrying a Christian. I would just repetitivly pray for him, God will call your boyfriend to him if your boyfriend just trys to have alittle faith and acceptance of God. Nonetheless, trust in God and your heart. Trust in God and he will lead you to the right path, weather it be to find a different boyfriend that shares more of your beliefs.

Answer 10

You and your boyfriend seem to have some real issues with compatibility. Maybe you're just not right for each other. Rather than trying to force someone to be something you want them to be, it might be better if you simply faced the fact that it isn't working, and just cut your losses.
Basically, why are you staying in a relationship you're not happy in?