The man I am seeing is miserable and suffering from extreme depression and he is very suicidal. I have told him I will support him and be there for him and I have printed out heaps of information about Depression and Suicide for him. He has stopped taking his meds and he is getting worse and worse and does not want help.
2007-02-05 18:01:07 · 7 answers · asked by compassionate_girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i think rigth now you are all hes got.if you love him and he loves you,you need to do something like take him to a hospital im guessing he may need that. tell him that the pain he fells you can also fell.tell him you love him and things will get beter...best of luck
2007-02-05 18:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by xo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to call a hotline and get some advice. http://suicidehotlines.com has a listing of hotlines for every state and the 800 number is 1-800-SUICIDE. Call them right now and good luck. It's very hard to make someone do something they don't want to do, really hard to make someone help themselves. In the end, it's not up to you, but I know that's hard to hear.
He'll be so much better off once he gets back on some meds that make him feel good. Maybe ask him if he can just get back on the meds long enough so he can ask someone what to do with his life. My husband was prescribed Xanax and given some by his doctor while he was still in the doctor's office and he was severely depressed and getting worse all the time. It's a miracle I got him to go to the doctor at all. Once he got on that Xanax, it wasn't a permanent fix - they'll move him off of that to something more long-term and satisfactory - but it was a whole new man - I got my husband back.
Know any friends who are in the medical profession? Any way of getting him into a doctor's office to talk to someone? Would he do it for you? He would probably want you to do it for him if you were in that situation.
Best of luck to you. I'll be thinking of you.
2007-02-06 02:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by oregonhealthy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my partner was very low and depressed I made a deal with him, he is allowed to feel bad and can even revel in the depression, he can soak in it all he likes and I wont nag him to see anyone about it or try and force treatment on him so long as he could promise me he would not harm himself... and.... here is the clanger.... that he does not remain in his misery for longer than a week.... funnily enough he readily agreed and every now and then he has a week of misery then pulls himelf together...
Sometimes as crazy as it seems the whole idea of wallowing in the mire is prefereable to pulling your own stuff together and coping.
So basically it is okay for a person to be down and miserable... but... there have to be some boundaries ... some lines drawn in the sand....
2007-02-06 07:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to get him involuntarily admitted to a behavioral health hospital. From what you say that sounds like the most feasible option, but try talking to his family, too. It gets hard when the person is refusing treatement of any kind.
2007-02-06 02:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by fiVe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone get help if they don't want it. Since he is on a path of self destruction your best bet is to try contacting his family to see if they can talk to him. If he is as far gone as you indicate in your post I can only wish you luck.
2007-02-06 02:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him or maybe you can talk to his family and have him sent to some kind of institute? well, it might help him you know. you have a life to live, why are you wasting on people who doesnt?
2007-02-06 02:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by williams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep complimenting him....sometimes these people arent shy...but afraid to do things that regular people just easily do....keep teling him that hes handsome...or intelligent..etc etc...and coax him to do things that he wants to do but is afraid to do...like talk to girls at a bar, get on stage, go out on dates..etc etc...these things keep people in a closet..like low self esteem people....once out....he will be okay...but its hard to help him crack that shell...
2007-02-06 15:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by frankysnewcolorpainting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋