is it a good thing that i don't trust my boyfriend? cause then that way i'm being cautious, and i'm preventing my feelings from getting hurt.
2007-02-05 17:49:15 · 12 answers · asked by US 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my my opinion, i think it is not a good idea that you don't trust your boyfriend. Whats the point in being in a relationship without trust. A relationship is about trust,love,and respect. I believe you should trust yea to a certain extent if you feel something is going on. If he knows that you don't trust him he is bound to cheat.
I have heard this from a lot of guys saying that if their girlfriend doesn't trust them and is always accusing them of cheating then why not do it.
So i think your best bet is to trust him if you really love him.
Good luck
2007-02-05 18:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A meaningful and healthy relationship can't be built on distrust. It's understandable that you want to be proactive in preventing your feelings from getting hurt, but that's not the answer. If you don't trust your boyfriend, it will create many issues in your relationship that isn't necessary. That's a lot of wasted time and energy that could be put into more happier times. You can't predict what he is going to do weeks, months or years from now, but you should give him the benefit of the doubt if you truly care about him. You'll only make both of your lives miserable if you have this attitude about trust.
2007-02-05 17:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being cautious is good but don't cut yourself completely cos then you won't get a chance to actually be happy. Maybe you could spend time with him as a friend in order to see him in a different light, then by doing so it might let you see him for who he really is and slowly build up some trust between you again.
2007-02-05 17:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by Acid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships aren't supposed to work that way. If you feel you can't trust your boyfriend, end it or instead of being boyfriend/girlfriend, revert back to "just dating" until you get to know him more. Being in a relationship is all about trust and if that element is missing, it really isn't a relationship so it would be better to end it before either you or him gets hurt.
2007-02-05 17:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by caz15th 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're making a mistake that a lot of women make--you're trying to change your boyfriend. I bet that he was not very talkative or demonstrative before you started going out. Why do you think he'd be different now? A lot of women seem to like to get a boyfriend that they can "improve." It just makes everyone miserable. Accept him the way he is or break up with him.
2016-03-29 07:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is relational suicide. we as humans have a need to connect with other people. but sometimes those people hurt us. our natural defense is to pull back in the next relationship. but in doing so we doom that relationship. you see if you never open up and never let your significant other into your life or your heart, while it does protect your heart sort of, it gives you an easy out. your significant other will eventually leave because it is a hollow relationship, then you are able to simply say "i knew he would leave". it happens every day all over the world but it is not healthy. eventually it can make you so closed off that you may have no real relationships with anyone. loving and losing hurts like hell it really does but it really is better. i know its cliche but allowing yourself to open up and love and share will lead to so many happy times in your life. if you watch tv there is the episode of that 70s show in which eric wishes he and donna had never gotten together. in the end he realizes that those precious time were so valuable that he could not let them go no matter how much it hurt. i know its a comedy but the message was loud and clear, live like there is no tomorrow, love like you have never been hurt, laugh like you may never laugh again, and drive it like you stole it. (ok the last one is not really part of the old adage but it should be.) any way i really hope this helps you and i hope you decide to open up to your boyfriend it will lead to wonderful memories.
2007-02-05 18:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by big_john_719 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while it's good to be cautious, there will come a point where you'll have to start trusting your boyfriend, or your relationship will never be able to mature beyond a certain level....you have to take risks, you've probably been hurt before which is why you want to distrust every guy now, but unless you give them a chance, they are powerless to prove themselves to you because you will already have this wall put up that will subconsciencely be keeping them out........
2007-02-05 17:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That is no way to be in a relationship. If you are going to be in a relationship with someone then you have to be able to trust them. If you can't, then you aren't ready to be in a relationship.
2007-02-05 17:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats true , you could be preventing yourself from getting hurt ,but u can also be hurting your relationship . how will u know its real or how can u be happy if u always have your guard up ! and by the way u keep thinking or accusing him of cheating he will do it !
2007-02-05 17:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by imbossy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. That is not right. If he has not done anything for you not to trust him.. Why would you treat him that way. Noting good can come of your relationship to him..
2007-02-05 17:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by BigWashSr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋