Just through $2800 out window for primary custody of 2yr old daughter?

Question

Mom is negligent living with several boyfriends skiping apointments &was driving around with baby all night. I had stable 2bdr with 2yr old in my care at lest 6 days a week. I needed papers to permit me care so I went to court for 1/2custody with myself having primary custody. Our girl who I raised was kept from me after mom got served until court. My baby had gone year with no insurance & DHHS would not even give me this info.even though I had the baby.(I'm male) Now $2800 later, I have half custody(custody half the week)pay child support and provide 95% of the rides (one hour round trip) because I had no car when I was with the mother two years ago. I feel this was predudice & I was robed by the courts. Was I, or am I just being a jerk! Im now going to school f/t, work f/t, have our baby one day less than the mother yet pay the mother$300 a month child support. Im stil unable to enrol our baby in daycare etc.and owe$2000back health ins.Wat can I do?This is not best interest of child!

Answer 1

i really dont know how to answer your question.but may i comment that there are some dads who deserve to sign over their entire check with no custody rights BUT you are not one of them. Sadly you are one of the small percentage who doesnt deserve what you got.SORRY . I do give you props on being the parent that really cares about your child.sorry about your situation,it really isnt fair.

Answer 2

I have no idea but am answering to tell you keep at it your doing a great job and think its so cool a father is trying to take a role in this.
The only thing I know is if you do anything for the child or spend time with the child not on your days like doctors, or any thing write and keep track of it you can turn it into Child support and get $ decreased at least here in CA. Also what I learned is keep a daily notebook about everything I do mean EVERYTHING having to do with the child. When you pick the baby up if she brings the baby in late, when you take the baby to the doctor, what you spend/buy for the baby ect.

Also Check with TANF/Welfair if they can't help (they can pay back bills up to a year on some) then Healthy Families is a great one. Also go your local Public Health Clinc they have low cost care as well.

Answer 3

This is really hard, unless she is into drugs or is a prostitute, you can't get custody without an expensive lawyer. Keep your opinions to yourself in front of your child. Love her, take good care of her when she is with you. Don't introduce her to any woman unless you are going to get married. stability and patience are your best allies. Your child will want to be where she is more secure. She will become a problem to your ex and you will get more time with her. One day she will be able to tell the judge that she wants to live with you. Eighteen years is a long time, make sure that she can always contact you if she needs something. Remember, she is a person, not a prize for the winner of your struggle with her mother.

Answer 4

I think it is a crying shame...my husband has 1/2 custody of my step-daughter, and he still pays $300 per month child support. Yes, I believe it is unfair, but the only way to really make a change is to write to your senator and congressmen over the issue. It seems to me that if the child is in your custody 1/2 of the time, the child is still in the mother's care half of the time, so she should also be paying for half of the expenses. I have written to my senator and congressmen regarding our situation as well. It's just unfair.

There are so many dead-beat dads out there who are making it tough on the men (and women) who are really trying to take care of their monetary responsibilites. If more dads (and moms) would rally together to get petitions going to get the laws regarding child support modified, especially when there are women (and men) out there who won't even work and are on welfare.

I don't think that all men or women should try to get out of paying child support, but honestly, SOME parents use their children as a profit.

Yes, I agree you were robbed...judges tend to favor women in these types of cases.

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Answer 5

keep fighting mad from what you wrote i understand that it would be hard but keep fighting you cant put a price on your own child and i think i would pay any amount of money to anyone just to give my child the life and upbringing they deserve. We need more dads like you and less mums like her in the world you should be very proud the money may seem like a waste but at least with you fighting for her it will all seem worth it when you tuck her in bed at night instead of tucking her into a car capsule.

Answer 6

In your case I would study up on your rights...And file for full Custody. The fastest growing family situation in the US today is the single parent home, with fathers as the care providers! Here are some site below you may find useful!!!

http://www.fatherscustody.org/
http://www.custody911.com/nf_custody_fathers.htm
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/tips.php
http://www.expertlaw.com/library/child_custody/fathers_rights.html
http://www.shawlaw.com/Fathers%20Seeking%20Custody.htm

Answer 7

I truly imagine that some kinfolk counseling is so as. you're precise, your spouse is allowing your daughter and it isn't good for any of you, jointly with the infant. that does no longer recommend so you could be the undesirable guy, even with the actuality that, and when you are making an rather good huge stink about the problem, then you fairly finally end up being the undesirable guy, no longer an injured party the following. below no situations might want to this change into you as against your spouse and daughter. it is the therapist's pastime to be the undesirable guy, no longer you. Haul the finished kinfolk in for kinfolk counseling to help all of you in organising human being relationships interior a complicated kinfolk equipment below one roof. Get to kinfolk counseling, deliver the finished kinfolk, and communicate by the problem. Your daughter desires your help, certain, yet she desires your help in bucking up and being a grown up, gaining knowledge of to be a good Mommy, and getting her act jointly adulthood smart. you ought to really be charging her employ, even even if it truly is a minor volume, so as that she she takes possession of her stake contained in the kinfolk living house. in case you want it to cover the expenses, use it. in case you do not favor it to cover the expenses, then sock it away for issues your grand daughter will favor contained in the destiny, yet do not tell YOUR DAUGHTER that is what it truly is FOR. She's were given to study the thanks to make a funds, shop funds, cope with her schedule, make sure her infant and construct a existence for herself. i ask your self in case you would not resent her going out and having a great time if it change into extra occasional, extra responsible, and if she wasn't slouching in different factors of her existence. the finished imagine about going to work out a therapist for the finished kinfolk is that he or she would have tremendous recommendations you have not even idea about in words of helping your daughter. for instance, your therapist may recommend parenting preparation on your daughter, or have a help team for unmarried moms the position your daughter can interact with different women human beings like her. You not in any respect understand!

Answer 8

If your child is safe and in a place that you aprove of and is taken care of and you are happy with how things turned out dont worry so much about the amount of money you had to spend.

Answer 9

Try going to your local welfare office- they will help you w/ insurance for your child. They can even help w/ back medical bills, if they're recent. Good luck.

Answer 10

Have you heart of family planning?...no car...broken home... should have kept it in your pocket.