My boyfriend and I have been together forever, I mean we were 13 and 15 when we got together and I swear he makes me happy. Its just that sometimes when I get attention from another guy who I think is cute or funny I imagine what it would be like to be with him. I actually consider it. Then I come back to reality and tell myself "youre crazy" because it would ruin our famlies lives. Im still young and I dont ever want to cheat on him, but would I be crazy for leaving him to just see what its like? We've always depended on each other and I dont know if we could live without eachother, literaly. What do you think?
2007-02-05 17:10:47 · 11 answers · asked by Princess Rach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's not an unusual situation at all. It's kinda how life works.
The grass is always greener on the other side, no matter what you do. You will always think you're missing something when maybe you have it right in the palm of your hand. But maybe not.
Fact is, talking about it will only make it worse. There's no real answer. You might be happier and find some great guy, or you might find a real jerk. You might find someone who will do everything you could ever ask for, or it might take you a long while to find someone else.
I've also found that a lot of times just because you're getting attention from someone it doesn't neccessarily mean they want to be with you or that they're the right person for you. I'm just a believer in don't fix it unless it's broke. If you guys are good together, and have fun, etc, then stay together. If you have lots of issues, and fight a lot, then that's the reason. Don't ever have the reason be because you want to be with someone else. That's just not fair to the guy you're with.
2007-02-05 17:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jaremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not unusal at all. you have been together for some time so it
natural to feel as you do. that the problem when you date at
such a early age because you dont see the world as it is, there
are so much out here for both of you to see. as you get older
you will see that life changes so does everything else. but
since you are looking at things in a diffent level maybe you need
to talk to him about this. other wise you will go out there to
see what it like with other guys,
2007-02-06 01:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's unusual... I feel the same way sometimes. If you want to be with him... then do so. If he treats you good then its all good.. You are just lusting after other guys and the fantasy of a new tale. Ever talk about a short break to try the dating scene again? you could try a new thing... nothing behind eachothers backs.. be as open as possible.!
2007-02-06 01:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have children you need to break up with this guy. I know lots of people I went to school with who were together from a young age, broke up, both went out with other people, then realised they were ment to be together and are now happily married with children.
If you don't try you will never know, and while you don't want to cheat now, it is a long lifetime, and those questions are not going anywhere.
2007-02-06 01:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are normal a lot of people men and women wonder what if. I say follow your heart. You have been with him a long time it is normal to look and wonder what it will be like with another just remember you already know what you have and you can always do worse.
2007-02-06 01:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes
"the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence"
I think you will find its very normal to think youre missing out on something, but once your there its not that great and you wish you could go back .......
2007-02-06 01:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having feelings for other ppl while in the relationship will happen from time to time. Only time will tell it its a passing thing or not. But in the need you'll have to decide whether you need your bf more or the new guy. Otherwise you'll end up hurting two ppl
2007-02-06 01:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear, what u r experiencing is totally normal but if u ask me, i wud say that for trying someone else, u lose a precious relationship wud be a foolish thing to do!!! u shud stick to ur guy who loves u so much and not care for anybody else!!! thats love!!!
2007-02-06 02:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and see if you can have an open relationship as in if you could casually date other people too.
2007-02-06 01:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by impossibilityoftruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are expeiriencing is completly normal, you are probably just wondering what it would have been like to date around before.it will all pass if you really love him
2007-02-06 01:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋